Amazing recommendations please 🙏

First time mom over here feeling totally overwhelmed and a little bored if I’m honest by all the stuff we are told we need for our babies, and then having like a gazillions brands all offering the same thing.

Anyone got any recommendations for their best ever pram/ 360 car seat combo? Bed side crib? Breast pumps?

Also anyone with advice on stuff they have bought that they did not use at all, or things they absolutely can’t live without??? Like do we need the bottle sanitizer or not? Do we need a nursing chair? Wipes warmer? Special nappy bin vs just a bin?

The internet really is telling us we need a lot of stuff, but I’m just not sure what to believe anymore. Any advice would be greatly appreciated. X

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Personally I don’t have a rocking chair if really needed when she’s been kicking off and won’t stop I’ve used the birthing ball a few times while holding baby and it has the same affect any other time I sit still and tap her bum, never once used wipe warmers and she’s happy enough, I just have nappy bags and then use the normal bin however we change our bin daily so the smell doesn’t ever have time to build and linger! The steriliser i genuinely couldn’t live without because it takes half hour to sterilise and dry bottles rather than waiting for them to air dry! With pumps I used tommee tipeee handheld electric pumps and honestly it made pumping horrendous because I had to sit and hold them! If I was going to have another baby id 100% get hand free ones because it means I could do other stuff! I have the elegance next to me crib and I found it honestly amazing baby girl had a bit of reflux so I lifted the top slightly to give it a tiny incline and it’s worked wonders to keep her

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Newborn

Got to week 3 and quite literally just want to cry he’s been awake 3 hours and I’m exhausted from 3- half 5 he’s been awake he’s never been like this before quite literally feel broken

Pumping?

Has anyone tried pumping again months and months after that initially had stopped? I’m 8m pp and I’m still making drops if I squeeze my nips. Opinions and thoughts on this matter? Nothing negative.

Undersupply

I am 8 weeks postpartum, I pump every 3 hours and I do a power pumping once a day, I drink lots of water, oats, under armour. And all I can get is 1 oz per boob every 3 hours, my question here is.
Am I going to be able to produce more ? Mom’s that were undersupply, were you able to produce more ? After all the power pumping, oats, supplements etc

My baby doesn’t latch and if he does after 2 minutes he gets super fussy. I don’t want to give up but at this point I just want to know if I ever going to get more 😔 it is mentally exhausting.

New mom

I had a very traumatic labor to the point ion think ill do it again. But everyday I look at my handsome boy and forget about it. I cry about it sometimes but im trying my best to not let it affect me.

midwives vs partners

Has anyone else had a negative experience with midwives treating your boyfriend/husband/ male partner poorly? It started with pre natal appointments where he was completely ignored, wasn’t asked if he had any questions or anything. I know it’s the woman who’s pregnant but he often left those appointments feeling like a spare part, despite trying to be as involved as he could.

My partner was incredibly supportive during labour, but in that tense senario all I needed was his hand to hold and squeeze, I didn’t need any more physical/ verbal support and the midwife’s made comments like “tell her she’s doing a good job” and I thought it was so unnecessary. This was our second child so I knew what I wanted and needed from him and we’d discussed this prior.

Appointments after birth were just the same. When the midwife came to our home to visit I was holding the baby and happened to be walking past the door when she arrived, so I opened the door and led her in. After doing th checks on our baby she made a snide comment like “we’ll give baby to dad so mam can get some rest” Little did she know he’d been up with him all night while I had 10 hours uninterrupted sleep. My partner had privately voiced his insecurities on not feeling like he was doing enough, especially in those early days. The constant condescending tones from health professionals made this so much worse and he put so much pressure on himself as a result.

Maybe it’s just my district but has anyone else had any experiences like this?

Baby’s night bottle

Hi all just looking for advice. My little one is 7 months and formula fed. She has 1 bottle through the night,(8oz) she dose wake up hungry. Whats people’s advice for getting rid of this bottle, so she sleeps longer?

Has anyone ever put baby rice into the last bottle? I’ve heard lots on people putting rusk in a bottle also, I’ve looked online and it’s suggested not to do this but lots of people say it works.

Has anyone tried?