Do you think saying this is ok?

My friend has a daughter who’s now 20 months old. 6 months ago, she met a guy & they’re now living together.
My friend works Monday to Friday so her daughter is in childcare 9-5:30 for them days.
Her partner has said to her that he thinks on the weekend family should look after her baby so that him and her can 1 have alone time and 2 get some rest.
He also is saying her daughter needs to be in bed and asleep by 7.30 so they can get there evenings together after work.
I feel like my friend never has her and I feel terrible on her daughter!??

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That's terrible. What does she think about what he's said? If it was me I'd be ending it with the guy 100% my babies come before ANYONE it would kill me to have to put them in childcare all week and only get to spend the weekend with them

I hate that he moved in after 6m that's terrifying and is now dictating this stuff is pretty red flag, all of it.

While I don't disagree in making time for adult relationships if help is available not every week but if bedtime is bedtime at 7.30 but if it isn't that's not going to work. Tbh evening switch off babies shouldn't be going to bed late just because we work. It's not fair to them.

But baby led, and the weekend thing is the thing for me, so coupled not great.

I don't think it's necessarily meant badly what's concerning is the first part added with the 2nd the 2nd on its own isn't necessarily bad but isn't great

How does your friend feel about it? Has she confided or has she just said this is what we're doing now?

It's her life. But yikes 😬

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