Physical intimacy issues postpartum
Hey gals I need some advice - my fiancé is a very good and hands-on dad with my 6 week old son, but now I’ve been cleared at my 6 week appointment he wants to start having sex immediately and regain some of the intimacy he feels we have lost during pregnancy and immediate post-partum.
I do too, but I don’t think he understands my perspective - I’m still sore from my c section, my boobs are constantly leaky and sore from breastfeeding, my body looks very different than it did, I’m tired from exclusively doing the night feeds, and I don’t feel like I have much of a sex drive yet (even though I do also miss the intimacy).
I guess from my perspective I just don’t feel physically or psychologically ready just yet. I have told him this, but all he says is “you’ve changed, it’s like you don’t care about me anymore”. It’s not that I don’t care about him, it’s just that my priorities have changed. I think, as much as he’s a good dad, he’s a bit jealous of the little one and how much of my time and attention he gets - my fiancé interprets that as me not caring about him, not me being a good mother to our son.
Anyone else been through this, or have suggestions for how I can broach this in a careful way to try and resolve this situation?
