Birthdays

How do you guys deal with birthdays? My youngest son’s first birthday is on the 4th September but my SS 10th birthday is on the 3rd. Normally we would half all the bills including my step kids bills, but infront of our children my other half said he would pay for SS and I pay for my youngest, because 10 years old is a big birthday and he will have a bit more. Our money circumstances have changed since I’ve had my youngest, whereas I used to be the bread winner and now am at home for child care reasons, he makes twice what I do now. I have felt weird about it for a while now, my SS will have a huge birthday at his mum and step dads house and whatever his dad plans here, but my sons to get less because it’s only his first birthday? I’m I over reacting? Am I overthinking? A first birthday is an equal birthday, they are all special?

Also side note with the schools going back he’s provided his ex with school clothes for my SD and SS, my eldest is starting with everything provided by me, my parents have offered to pay for the school jumpers and he still hasn’t said anything.

Am I overthinking that he will pull this stunt at Christmas too? He will pay for the step kids but not my kids?

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MIL - what would you do?

My MIL and stepdad spoil our 2.5 year old. My partner has told them multiple times not to but they don’t listen. It’s got to the point where if my daughter gets given a gift and it’s not in the right colour she’ll ask for a different colour, if she doesn’t get it she will have a strop or ask for it in the colour she’ll wants.
She gets gifts every week, I mean bikes, trampoline, playdoh, football, you name it. But we never get consulted about it. I feel like she wants to be there all the time and I’m less than. She is turning into a bit of a spoilt brat if I’m honest 🫠 we’re always bad cop at home saying no.
His MIL has her twice a week and has done since I went back to work. She wants to come round either Thursday or Friday night to see her and on a weekend as well, but now I don’t really want to be around them or limit the interaction because it’s excessive.
She doesn’t seem to want to see me or her son or our newborn, just obsessed with toddler.

My mum also recently passed so I’m in a real difficult position in regards with what to do/ not seeing her as I feel bad.

How often would you see them/ what would you do?

Going out

What should I do if my boyfriend is always wanting to go out late at night drinking with his friends but I can never go do anything because I am home with my daughter. There has been an incident where I let him go out with friends, and I told him to be home by midnight, but he didn’t come home till 6 AM and then one night he was working till like 9 o’clock and then left me on red and went to go hang out with friends and drink again didn’t get home till one and now tonight at 11 o’clock. He asked if he could go out drinking with friends and I told him I really didn’t want him to go, but he said he would be home by 12:30 and he’s always saying you’re just getting mad really for no reason but I’m always stuck at home and can’t go out with friends because I’m either at home or I’m working

Battle ax

My husband and I got into a argument yesterday. We rekindled and talked. We were talking about his life and when he met me. Then I say "you met your angel" he says "more like my battle ax" and laughed.. I'm hurt to be honest am I overreacting reacting?

Freaking out

I had my little one nearly 5 months ago, elective C-section for a few reasons. Just found out I'm pregnant again. My husband has really struggled being a dad with me having to do the bulk of the parenting. He moans that our baby monopolises my times and he doesnt get time with me. Its only going to be worse with 2 under 2! I don't know how to tell him.

Regret

I love my baby and would give my life up for him if anyone had a gun to my head. Not even a second thought. But I'm 24, gonna be 25 in just a couple months. I didn't get a chance and will never get a chance to experience my 20's. I regret it. I got married at 19. Had my baby at 20. I'm just done with everything. My toddler disables me. Any time I want to go out, or I'm invited somewhere.. I just think "what should I bring for him. Is he gonna be okay? Is he going to tire out or be overwhelmed? Should we bring something to entertain him? Will he be fine sitting there? (Probably not but it's a nice thought). He'll probably break something while we're there. What am I going to do if he breaks something? What if he wonders off without me noticing??"

I don't leave my house because of him. My husband thinks I should get out more and that I shouldn't let my fears stop me from leaving the house.

But every time I leave with my son... I immediately get anxious and am ready to go home.

I don't like having a child near me. At all. I don't like children. I can't stand to be around them. And children piss me off. But I have a little 4 year old boy. I love him more than life itself... I just wish I had waited...

But I know, that if I had waited.. I wouldn't have gotten my little Micah 🥹

My husband tells me that I need more female friends but it's hard when all the people we know don't have kids. Plus. It's hard for me to get along with women. (I was raised as a tom boy.)

In the end.. I'm just having a hard time. I feel so alone. I need help.

Please... Can y'all help me???

Traveling abroad with a 3 month old

Hello has anyone traveled aboard with a 3 month before if so has anyone got any recommendations for a cheap travel system for traveling abroad with a 3 month old I don’t want to take my buggy and travel system I have as I don’t want it to get damage as was quite expensive