Routines

Those of you getting 4/5/6/7 hour stretches at night, what’s your day/night one routines? Ie when are you putting them to bed? How long are they awake for before bed? How often are they napping in the day?

Asking for very tired friend 🫠😅

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My boys get up usually 9 ish have a bottle play for anything upto 2 hours sleep until they’re due their next bottle (4hrly) then again play for upto 2 hrs n sleep until their next bottle that’s just a loop through the day then we aim for a 10pm bedtime.
We were getting 6-7 hour stretches at night but the past two nights we’ve had a 8hr & a 8.5hr stretch 🤞🏻

After their long stretch then have a small feed and go back to bed until I’m ready to get up 🤣 it’s exhausting with 2 babies n a 3 year old so I stay In bed as long as they let me which is usually 9 , 9:30 latest

My 7 week old is usually awake for 1-1.5 hours to play/interact, I keep an eye on wake windows and if she fusses I start rocking her to sleep. She has a bottle 3 hourly in the day sometimes 2.5 hours. Her naps vary in length but on average through the day she gets around 7 hours sleep. She is up more in the evening and a lot more cranky but will settle to sleep after her bottle for the night around 9-10pm. Husband does night routine while I put the older one to bed. She then has an initial 3-5 hour stretch and will wake for a bottle and goes back down for another 3-4 hours.

My 8 week old can vary during the day between 1-3 long panos during the day or 1 long nap then a couple broken/short naps (we kind of just follow cues but aim to have at least 1 long nap). We shower/bathe him at around 7 then sometimes give him a bottle then we put him in his crib and he’s usually down by 8-9pm every night. Then he first wake is anywhere from 3/4/7 hours for a bottle then usually 3/4 hours after. I would say our day starts at about 9:30-10am most days

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