Husband.

Every month I go through my husbands phone because earlier this year after he turned 21 we went to the bar to celebrate he got really drunk and started hitting me and stuff telling me he cheated on me and threw his phone at me so I looked through it like any normal person would I didn’t find him talking to other females or anything like that he was watching thirst traps on a burner instagram account he got rid of this account fast forward my whole pregnancy he has been doing this I’ve stated how I felt about it and I told him it will have impact on me him and his child. Do you guys think that it’s because I’m fat ? Ugly or he’s just bored of me.. I need some serious advice do I leave. ( every time I try to leave he guilt trips me and tells me he’s going to kill himself )

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He is not safe to be around and the guilt trips about killing himself if you leave isn't fair. The likelihood is that he is emotionally manipulative/abusive in other ways and this is another part of it. You need to leave now rather than find out in however many years time and you'll regret having him around your child

Hi love, first off I’m so sorry you’re going thru this nobody shouldn’t endure this kind of pain. My advice to you is to get ur self mentally and financially stable for you and your child and leave. Speaking from experience my son father used to abuse me mentally and physically and everytime I try to break up with him he say the exact same thing your partner is saying. That’s a huge red flag and he’s very much a narcissist. Please choose you and ur child first and leave. My mom once told me “never let a man tell you more than once that they don’t want you”. You can do way better after I left my son father I’m now a fiancée about to get married in October to a wonderful man and currently pregnant 🤰🏾 with my 4th. If one man don’t see the value in u there’s always another man that WILL. Don’t continue to waste ur time on someone that will never change. Feel free to message me to talk about anything 🙂 you got this Queen. Now fix ur crown 👑 because you matter beautiful.🩷

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