Needing to get out / do stuff with other moms

Yall- I don’t even know where to start .. but as I continue this search for people who share the same interests .. I tend to go backwards I feel like . My husband works 12 hrs most nights one week and 24 the next (goes b&f) . And so I’m usually stuck at home all the time when he works or sleeps to regain rest . I do enjoy going out with my little family , but imo it’s a different feeling when you go out with friends . You feel like you can unwind a bit and not feel so tense or wtv ur feeling . I need some of that more often . And I haven’t been able to accomplish that for me and my baby as much as we’d like to . I can’t drive as of right now and that just makes it even harder … Any ideas or suggestions ladies ??

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Learning at nursery

So my little one’s just turned one and he’s starting nursery later this month. His nursery doesn’t offer any basic learning/curriculum at all until 3 years. My baby is quite a fast learner so I was hoping he would pick up new things at nursery like colours and 123.

Is this the case at other nurseries too? They only do singing, interactive/messy play. Am I expecting too much lol

Follow up to - should I apologise post!

So I didn't apologise.

Since then - My son had a family only bday party and she refused to come because it was a garden party. She messaged half an hour before we were expecting them. She said it wasn't safe in the heat. She was meant to be bringing his cousins and Aunt and Uncle. None of them came. The heat was 28 degrees, cloudy and we had out big gazebos.

She messaged and asked when we were going to reschedule and I said we weren't going to. She then didn't answer and hasnt answered me now for 3 weeks.

I am really struggling to move past this.
I also don't feel like my partner is getting it. He spoke to her and she said the heat isn't safe. I feel really sad about this.
I also feel like she is judging me!

We cannot go to her currently.

What would you do -

Weaning 4 months?

Can anyone give any advice on if they started weaning baby or giving them baby porridge or purred food at 4 months and how it went?

How much are you January babies eating? How many meals are you offering? How much do they ACTUALLY eat from it? Struggling as my girl still isn’t showing much interest in weaning.

I have 6 recipe books for ideas and honestly some of them seem insane to me😂 also BLW genuinely gives me fear. I hate this first starting to eat stage honestly and her not being interested isn’t helping me😩

Husband.

Every month I go through my husbands phone because earlier this year after he turned 21 we went to the bar to celebrate he got really drunk and started hitting me and stuff telling me he cheated on me and threw his phone at me so I looked through it like any normal person would I didn’t find him talking to other females or anything like that he was watching thirst traps on a burner instagram account he got rid of this account fast forward my whole pregnancy he has been doing this I’ve stated how I felt about it and I told him it will have impact on me him and his child. Do you guys think that it’s because I’m fat ? Ugly or he’s just bored of me.. I need some serious advice do I leave. ( every time I try to leave he guilt trips me and tells me he’s going to kill himself )

Am I wrong! I get up out of bed because I hear my asd son screaming and my husband did a jujitsu move on (kicked feet out from under him to lay him down) well he was visibly upset and wanted away from him and when I got closer he grab my

Arm and walked me to the back door to go outside. So I open it because he needed to regulate, which my son did. but now
His father says I’m interfering with his parentingwhen I didn’t see it that way at all, all I did was see what our non verbal child wanted and holding him by his wrists and saying to complex words frustrates him like his dad was doing. Son has cognitive level of 9 month old
He was standing on our table which is normal and not unsafe how we have our home arranged and a habit we are working on through therapy and he didn’t want to hear why he’s approach was wrong in my eyes. I wasn’t mad or anything but he started a fight with me
He ended up packing a bag and leaving over this.

He also said 7am is too early to be outside and he need to learn the difference…it’s already 76 outside so going out in the morning in routine.