Headstart

Hello! I am thinking about putting my 3.5 year old into headstart but I’m a SAHM. I’ll still have my 16 month old at home trying to get him potty trained and talking.

Am I bad mom for this…?

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Only you can decide what is right for you, you may find that it's not for you and take them out or they might love it, if it feels right to you, that's what matters.

My stepson did Headstart for a couple months when he was about 3½. I appreciated how we'd have regular meetings in order to help him reach the goals he had.

No, not at all, there’s nothing wrong w/using childcare when you’re a SAHM. Now this was like 14yrs ago, I sure hope they got their 💩together everywhere now, but when we got our 1st head start here, my oldest was pre k age & I decided to apply for him a slot & got PT. I ended up losing my job due to them, I’d go stand in line for the school to open to be told they didn’t have enough teachers, hard to find alternative care 30mins bf work as a single-ish mom, plus they put so much mustard on the food none of the kids ate, the last straw was feeding frozen veggies w/o thawing them. I was sitting in for lunch after losing my job & my son wouldn’t eat his peas, so I tried one, they were still nearly solid & lunch time was over. I pulled him that day, my late MIL had told me he was always starving when she picked him up, even though he left after lunch, I figured it was a growth spurt. I pulled him out & had to go through a DHS home check as a result, but our complaints shut them down.

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Needing to get out / do stuff with other moms

Yall- I don’t even know where to start .. but as I continue this search for people who share the same interests .. I tend to go backwards I feel like . My husband works 12 hrs most nights one week and 24 the next (goes b&f) . And so I’m usually stuck at home all the time when he works or sleeps to regain rest . I do enjoy going out with my little family , but imo it’s a different feeling when you go out with friends . You feel like you can unwind a bit and not feel so tense or wtv ur feeling . I need some of that more often . And I haven’t been able to accomplish that for me and my baby as much as we’d like to . I can’t drive as of right now and that just makes it even harder … Any ideas or suggestions ladies ??

Follow up to - should I apologise post!

So I didn't apologise.

Since then - My son had a family only bday party and she refused to come because it was a garden party. She messaged half an hour before we were expecting them. She said it wasn't safe in the heat. She was meant to be bringing his cousins and Aunt and Uncle. None of them came. The heat was 28 degrees, cloudy and we had out big gazebos.

She messaged and asked when we were going to reschedule and I said we weren't going to. She then didn't answer and hasnt answered me now for 3 weeks.

I am really struggling to move past this.
I also don't feel like my partner is getting it. He spoke to her and she said the heat isn't safe. I feel really sad about this.
I also feel like she is judging me!

We cannot go to her currently.

What would you do -

Husband.

Every month I go through my husbands phone because earlier this year after he turned 21 we went to the bar to celebrate he got really drunk and started hitting me and stuff telling me he cheated on me and threw his phone at me so I looked through it like any normal person would I didn’t find him talking to other females or anything like that he was watching thirst traps on a burner instagram account he got rid of this account fast forward my whole pregnancy he has been doing this I’ve stated how I felt about it and I told him it will have impact on me him and his child. Do you guys think that it’s because I’m fat ? Ugly or he’s just bored of me.. I need some serious advice do I leave. ( every time I try to leave he guilt trips me and tells me he’s going to kill himself )

Weaning 4 months?

Can anyone give any advice on if they started weaning baby or giving them baby porridge or purred food at 4 months and how it went?

Am I crazy?

So I've been with my husband for almost 19 years we have had struggles like porn and looking at women online this has been going on for 5 plus years .so recently he told he was taking his ed pills to work for a gay cowork and I told him thats weird pls stop, I got curious so I started counting them and keeping up with when he would take them. So last week I did my usually counting nothing had changed until Tuesday when I counted them so I asked him when the last time he took one was he said that previous friday so why when I counted them on sunday there was none missing until Tuesday.... (I know thats alot also the gay cowork doesn't work there anymore and he came home with a ripped shirt yesterday and when I ask him what happen he said he had dropped some cigarettes embers on it and got mad and ripped it im driving myself crazy

Is it valid to feel this way?

I feel bad thinking this way but I'm really annoyed with my husband lately. He does a lot for me but sometimes I feel like it's only when I ask...for example he knows how I feel when the house is a little messy or unorganized and he'll say he's gonna take care of it but he really doesn't, or if he does it's only half of the dishes or half of the recycling. It's frustrating because I then have to spend the 20 minutes of "free time" cleaning instead of eating, or sleeping, or taking a shower. Sometimes I can do more but I have to prioritize. I don't know, I'm just overwhelmed with the mental load of it all. I've talked to my husband about this and he says "I can do more". I hope he does, because I can't keep stressing about this. Am I just complaining or am I valid for feeling this way?

Just an additional note, my husband really is supportive and helpful it's just these things really get to me...