Any reassurance appreciated!

I apologise for the long post I just don’t know how to feel and think I need some clarity. For reference we have a 3 month old who was born 8 weeks premature and a nearly 3 year old. Pregnancy with my second was absolutely awful, I had loads of issues and pretty much stayed in hospital for the 2 months before he was born. Getting pregnant was an accident and I knew from the start my partner didn’t want another child but I also knew I definitely couldn’t go through with an abortion so I told him I would understand if he wanted to leave but I was going to be keeping the baby. We broke up briefly quite early on in pregnancy but he came back saying that he’d stay and have the baby with me.

We started off okay but once the health issues started he told me every day I should’ve just “gotten rid of the thing” and since baby’s been here it’s only gotten worse. He’s always telling me he still wants to put him up for adoption etc. Baby doesn’t sleep well at all and quite often I’ll be up every half an hour with him. My partner won’t get up with him and tells me I wanted the baby so it’s my problem. A couple weeks ago I was up with the baby and hadn’t slept in a couple of days, I was crying and he told me to be quiet so he could sleep. I’m a SAHM and he earns the money. I’m always allowed things I ask for but I don’t have any access to money and when I’ve asked about it he says that he earns it so it’s his not mine. He keeps telling me that when he leaves me I’ll have nothing, and yesterday told me that it’s probably because I have post partum depression that I annoy him because I’m not the person he fell in love with but I feel like I can’t come out of that if I’m constantly having no sleep and being so busy during the day with two kids, house work etc. He’ll make comments about my weight after having the baby but now he’s started being quite mean to my toddler and I just can’t see how I can raise two lovely boys if their roll model is being so horrible all of the time. I love him, he was so lovely when we met I just don’t know what’s happened I just think for the sake of my boys I need to leave but I feel so trapped in my situation.

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Hey girl!!

Looking for a mom bestie who actually texts back and doesn’t make it weird 😭 just easy convo, no awkward pauses, no overthinking replies like we can talk about life, kids, chaos, and random nonsense without it feeling like a job interview. Bonus if we can be funny and consistent 🫶 I want a real friend, not an off and on situation LOLL 😭

Looking for more alt friends!

Mama of 2, needing some mum friends that I can vibe with 🖤

Sex?❤️

Hey girls, I just wanted some advice when it comes to maintaining a sex life when you’re in the first trimester trenches🤢
It is something I really value for closeness and is important in our relationship and I’m so nauseous I can’t even stomach it right not but also miss it..
Any tips/ advice/ kind words…❤️

First Christmas as a Mummy!

I’m wanting to start buying Christmas presents for my first child (14 weeks, will be around 7.5 months at Christmas), so I’m not spending out loads at once. But I’ve no idea what to get him, as he hasn’t started having interest in anything particular yet and I don’t want to buy things just for the sake of buying. Does anyone have any suggestions please?? 🙏🏻

Getting back into work/education advice?

Has anyone got any advice or tips at all? I'm 29 and I've got two young daughters that are 2 and a half and 8 months.

My job and work history is a bit all over the place due to mental health, my dad dying nearly 4 years ago and having my girls. I didn't do very well at school because I absolutely hated it so my GCSE's were rubbish. After I left school I did childcare level 1 and 2 and passed both of them, got my first job at 18, had a massive panic attack, left after 5 weeks, got another job in another nursery and was there for 5 years when I moved away after meeting my partner during covid.

I've also worked in warehouses and I want to re train completely as I don't want to do childcare anymore. I've recently completed a level 2 health and social care online course at my local college but I'm stuck between this and wanting to become a midwife/maternity support worker.

I'm really stuck on next steps. My partner earns a decent wage and I'm at home with the Kids, we are also on UC. My eldest goes to nursery twice a week but my youngest is only 8 months and I don't want her going to nursery yet. Money is tight so I can't afford to pay for uni, plus I'm not clever enough so I feel stuck. Anyone been in a similar position?

Argument over house bills left me feeling like a shitty mum

Long story but short rant. Due to move into our first we bought together. I’m on maternity leave. He brings home 3k alone without commission. I’m entitled for suggesting the idea of combining wages. Paying the house bills alone out of it. Splitting what’s left to keep for ourselves and to pay our own bills out of that. So one person wasn’t left without for the whole month while the other has double left for the whole month. No one would ever be in a worse position than the other. It worked out we’d both have the same a month. Even if we didn’t do it that way and he paid the majority of the bills he’d still be left with what he would have if wages was combined anyway. But apparently im entitled. I had the baby in my arms when I raised my voice. He made me feel like a shit mum for raising my voice with baby in my hand whilst he was only on the couch 1 meter away raising his voice. If you earn more than someone else I’d like to think you’d want to contribute more where the other person can’t? If the household expidenture wasn’t so high and I have my own bills and he doesn’t then obviously I’d go 50/50. Didn’t think I was asking for much. He “shouldn’t pay more for having the ‘better job’ “