Going from 2 to 3

Okay need advice. So I have two girls 6 and 2 and just found out I was pregnant with #3. I’m very conflicted. I NEVER imagined having another and truly felt I was done. I really had no desire or thought of having another child. I am happily married and my husband is fine with any choice I make. We financially are fine right now with two but having a third would mean needing to get a bigger car and move from our 2 bedroom to a 3, plus an additional daycare expense after mat. leave, so possible strain??My oldest is in lots of extracurriculars and younger one will be starting some too so this could be difficult with having a new baby and I definitely don’t want their activities to suffer because of having another child. My husband works 2 jobs so weekends I’m alone with the kids . I also work full time M-F. I also have been on GLPs the last 3 months so finally starting to get my body back and feel like myself again 😅 Being a girl mom is the best and really could not see myself having a boy BUT at the same time I love being a mom and know I could love a third.

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Childminder worries

To start, I'm not worried about our childminder - she and her assistant are incredible, such amazing lovely people with a wealth of experience between them and I absolutely know they're the right people to look after my son!

But!

He had a 2hr settling in session today and he was SO sad 😩 He's a sensitive little soul, not the kind of baby you can just hand to anyone while you pop to the toilet, you have to earn his trust! And when I picked him up he screamed all the way home which he has *never* done even when he was a newborn, like he was cross with me 💔

Does anyone have a little one like this - sensitive, tentative, shy etc - that they've sent to childcare? He'll be going 3 days a week from September and I'm just so anxious now it'll do some permanent abandonment damage or something 🙈

Stressful days out..

I would prefer to stay in and my family wonder why.. My son doesn't listen to me and it ends up in me being a bag of nerves and then it eventually stresses me out..

And then my daughter who usually has 1.5 - 2 hours sleep at home refuses to nap in her buggy when when I try to make her nap in her buggy she will scream and cry 30 minutes to 1 hour till she gives in (she's exhausted)
And then the heat over stimulates me...

I'm at the farm right now with my kids, my Nana and Mother and I'm close to tears because I'm so stressed my daughter won't nap even though her eyes are bright pink with exhaustion. And my mother and Nana wonder why I grumble when they want to go out as a family which yeah it's nice but the stress that follows...

Taking the kids out "for fun days" Just isn't fun for me.. Maybe in the future I'll enjoy it more when they're not so young but at the minute I just wanna curl up in a ball and cry....

If you’ve got a boyfriend/husband…

Does his lack of common sense at home ever make you question how he is so successful in his work

I love my husband but I really do question his critical thinking sometimes especially when it comes to the kids and completing basic tasks 😂

Need ideas

I’m a SAHM with a 2 month old baby boy and I can get bored pretty quickly lol. Yes, I keep our house clean, the laundry done, have watched multiple shows, and we go visit my grandmother every Thursday…. but I need something more. What are some ideas to do that I can take my 2 month old to do with me to get out of the house before I go crazy! lol

P.S. I do live in Texas and it is HOT right now, so going on walks isn’t an option at this moment as I don’t want to keep my LO in the heat for so long.

i’m starting to realize

being a sahm or mom who’s with the babies/kids the most means you get zero sick days. i don’t get sick a bunch but when i do i still have to take care of my toddler 24/7. i have food poisoning? oh well, my husband won’t call out of work and i still have to get everything done in between the bathroom runs. my husband has gout or body aches? he’s out for the count ALLLLLL DAY. sleeping mainly. and kind of a dick. i can’t even remember the last time I’ve even slept past 7am. but he does it on the regular.

Clingy baby and heatwave

I’m really struggling with the weather and our 3 week old that I’ve become super anxious about leaving the house.
My baby will not let me put him down but is very warm. He is just in his nappy and after a lot of feeds. He is very hydrated as filling a lot of nappies this morning and only calm when on me.
I have a baby sling but he’s too warm in it and screamed when I tried earlier and he’s lasting around 10 mins in his cot before crying. I’m too nervous to let him get worked up incase he overheats.
I was supposed to go to the doctors today for my own health issue but cancelled as I couldn’t even put him in the car seat to leave the house, which made us both cry. My partner is back at work and my mum is very quick to tell me what I’m doing wrong so not asking her.
I feel like a prisoner in my own home and have lost all my confidence. I’m trying not to be hard on myself but I literally can’t do anything other than feed my baby.