Boyfriend takes long 💩

I know by the title alone it might not seem like much. But does anyone else’s boyfriend/husband do this as well? Literally every single time he needs to 💩, it’s anywhere from 40 minutes to an hour and 10 minutes (his longest one, I was curious so I timed it) like bro. Does it really take that long every time?? I’ve looked it up and it says when they do this they have a medical issue and should get it checked. I’ve been with him for 2 years and he’s always done this. Even before getting together people have told me how long he takes in there. I’ve checked through his phone( I know, but whatever) like literally everything. Every app, every deleted messages, every back up I can do, everything and there’s no sign of cheating. So now I’m curious if anyone else’s man literally shits for an hour or if it’s just mine. And does it seem like there’s more he might be doing or just really sitting there for an hour shitting and scrolling TikTok?? Sometimes it drives me crazy bc this morning for example, wakes up later than he usually does, then is now taking his 40 minutes long bathroom break then will have to immediately get ready for work and leave. Like 0 time together before he leaves for work, then when he gets home he always has to smoke and then go shit for another 40 min-1 hour. Like please tell me others have this problem with their partner and it’s not just me.

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Mine does too, claims he has ibs? Or some bacteria thing? from military travel

He could just be scrolling and taking time to decompress.

Im thinking he's just on his phone scrolling or playing a game

Feed him fiber and water. I think guys have less fiber in their diet so they poop longer. There's hilarious videos on Instagram how long men poop for it's not just yours but it is annoying.

Yes my guy also takes the longest bathroom breaks ever🙄 so annoying for the same reasons

Mine does this too. I think they all do. I think it’s a way to avoid the responsibility in the house honestly. I tried to pull this on him a few times and he didn’t like it very much but even when I did it I couldn’t stay in the bathroom more than 20 mins. They just doom scroll and watch videos.

My ex's brother did but he was just scrolling lol I dated someone wayyy back that would be in the bathroom a long time. Once in the middle of the night I had to pee and was so tired I guess I didn't realize but the door wasn't locked.. he was passed out on the toilet and I was like wtf right? So it kept happening and way later after we broke up I spoke with his sister and she let me know he was actually in jail for drugs. So he was in the bathroom high af on whatever I dunno. I'm not saying your guy is doing that but it just never would have been an option in my mind. I think if he's legit sitting on the pot that long he should get a colonoscopy and check for polyps and hemorrhoids. Could be dangerous. Plus the Dr would have suggestions for diet etc to help with his gut.

Mine does this too, He gets home from work and goes straight to the bathroom. I hear him watching videos in there though so he’s probably scrolling through IG. I do think this is there way to decompress and have time to themselves before they have to help with the kiddos.

I think all men in this generation do it. They're just scrolling on their phones. My husband used to do this but then he learned that it puts stress on the colon and can cause issues like hemorrhoids. Maybe just tell your guy this

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