Partner stepping back after the newborn bubble?

Has anyone else found their partner took a step back after the first few weeks?

My other half was brilliant at first; cooking, cleaning and helping with baby. But since going back to work, we’re back to 50/50 with cooking, cleaning and the dog, while I’m looking after our EBF baby 24/7. He’s gone back to all his hobbies, while I have to ask him to watch her just so I can shower.

She’s 6 weeks old and I’ve only been out alone 4 times, all for less than an hour and usually to walk the dog or get something for her. Next week he’s out 5/7 days for hobbies and seeing friends.

I don’t want to be controlling or stop him having a life, but I also don’t feel like I should have to ask him to parent or give me a break. I want him to *want* to do it without being told. Has anyone else been through this?

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I hear ya! Mine sits on his ass and watches some crappy gta role play on TV...even within the first week of coming out of hospital he would wake me up and ask whats for dinner! Men have it so easy! While we mother and then do the housework and they wonder why we detach from them

If you’re expected to be 50/50 on cooking, cleaning, etc then it shots also be 50/50 on time for hobbies and friends. He is just as much her parent as you are. Even if he can’t feed her he can and should still make sure you are taken care of. Our LO is 2 months old and my husband has always taken over an hour every day to have cigars outside our apartment while I’m on baby duty. It was just yesterday that I finally asked to be given the same amount of time to be alone. Don’t be afraid to advocate for what you need.

Im definitely feeling your pain on this one. Mine is the same way always working an then when hes home hes not actually wanting to spend time with me or the baby. He doesnt really do anything or help. I too have to ask him to hold her whilst I shower or ask him to do something when he should ask do I need help. He too was helpful during his paternity leave but then after that its been like im a solo parent

If only men could go through what we went through and have to breastfeed them too! Would like to see how they deal with it lol

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Not feeling excited..?

I am currently 37 + 2 and labour day is coming soon. I am not feeling very excited tbh, feel sad that my child free days are over, that my life will never be the same again and worrying that I’ll be a bad parent (and an anxious parent too).

I’ve been with my partner for 6 years, we own a house together and generally speaking we have a lot of support however I’m also concerned he isn’t growing up enough because of the support and dependency (from his family) and lack of maturity around what it’s actually going to be like having a baby. I fear he is too positive about it all and to be quite honest that really annoys me.

I’m not sleeping, I don’t feel supported and I am so uncomfortable in this heat. Ironically, the physical aspects of birth don’t worry me too much it’s just everything else!

Can someone please sense check me and tell me everything is going to be okay?!?

Food

Not here to be judged please. Looking for advice.

I’m an over feeder, no matter who it is I will always provide more than enough food on everyone’s plate. I’d rather people have more than enough than not enough 🤷🏻‍♀️

My question is, how do you know when your baby has had enough food? I feel like my 13 month old would keep eating and keep eating and keep eating if I never stopped…

Just worried he could be eating too much. He has 2 bottles of cows milk per day, breakfast and before bed.

Would you hire a single mom as a nanny?

She would bring her young kids as well or you could bring your child to her place.

Am I over reacting?

My partner (26 M) has a job where he does 2 early morning shifts 2 late night shifts and then 2 night shifts. Followed then by 4 days off. Which means I care for our baby by myself through the duration of the 6 working days. He may do the odd bottle or nappy change but this is quite rare. On his days off he refuses to do anything, again maybe the odd bottle etc. I’ve told him I feel so burned out and he just carries on just the same with no acknowledgement of my words.

He doesn’t clean, tidy nor cooks. And we still go 50:50 on all the bills.

Before I totally errupt on him am I over reacting should I say something? I don’t know what to do anymore.

Thank ladies :)

Question for When both parents are home are you both equally responsible for the children you share together?

My son has pica (eats thinks that aren’t food) and my bf (who is also his dad) blames me for when our sons eats dirt or a rose or something in the backyard, we have 2 other younger children that I’ll be tending to or finally getting self care for the day/week and he comes yelling at me because our son did that even when he’s asked to watch them for 10-20 mins. Is the responsibility always going to fall on me? I can’t be everywhere at once…. He called me today and said “u better watch it” kept saying “yeah” then hung up before I could even say anything over this same conversation even tho this has happened 2-3 times max on his watch

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I know by the title alone it might not seem like much. But does anyone else’s boyfriend/husband do this as well? Literally every single time he needs to 💩, it’s anywhere from 40 minutes to an hour and 10 minutes (his longest one, I was curious so I timed it) like bro. Does it really take that long every time?? I’ve looked it up and it says when they do this they have a medical issue and should get it checked. I’ve been with him for 2 years and he’s always done this. Even before getting together people have told me how long he takes in there. I’ve checked through his phone( I know, but whatever) like literally everything. Every app, every deleted messages, every back up I can do, everything and there’s no sign of cheating. So now I’m curious if anyone else’s man literally shits for an hour or if it’s just mine. And does it seem like there’s more he might be doing or just really sitting there for an hour shitting and scrolling TikTok?? Sometimes it drives me crazy bc this morning for example, wakes up later than he usually does, then is now taking his 40 minutes long bathroom break then will have to immediately get ready for work and leave. Like 0 time together before he leaves for work, then when he gets home he always has to smoke and then go shit for another 40 min-1 hour. Like please tell me others have this problem with their partner and it’s not just me.