Settle the debate

I wouldn't say he's okay with routine disturbances; but he isn't a stickler about them if they do occur. Yes, it does interrupt his workday cuz we both work at home, so any disturbance changes the work flow. I think this can be pushed to extremes and often oversimplified by guys too. We've actually spoken about this at length and have summed it up to that men have a 'silk worm' brain ie needs one task at a time; and women have a 'spider web' brain ie we can handle many things at once and they are highly interconnected. So often times having that process interrupted can be hard to get back on track as well as feel wholely satisfied with completing said task too. We both need specific environments for us at home to have as 'work' spaces because otherwise we just want to hang out and be together and to not distract one another with work calls/breaks etc.

Men also build a lot of their sense of self around their work too. So that could also be a contributing factor when putting this all together.

I'd be surprised if my husband had a routine 🤣

Yeah my husbands work schedule is different every week so it always looks different. Only LO has any kind of routine. If my husband gets two days off in a row we will most likely shoot up to Disney for the day and rest the next or go visit family for the two days.

It's a family thing not a man thing. The men in his family are the same because they've been raised that way, with that example. He's probably made friends with like minded people. That's why he thinks it's everyone. My husband works hard and is in a high position, he counts down to time off/holidays! I don't think there's anything inherently wrong with being passionate about your career and dedicating time to it, obviously there's satisfaction in doing a good job and some jobs just require more attention, and there's financial compensation. But why have a family if you're never going to switch off and enjoy them, spend time with them, and just be a person?

A vacation isn't really a routine disturbance. A vacation is time off. But idk, men with jobs like that tend to view it differently, I guess. Mine runs his own company and has a secondary job as well, but he knows the value of taking time off, especially now that we have a kid.

My husband is a lawyer in a pretty high position and wants to be working the absolute bare minimum that he has to. He still works a lot but if he is able to ditch work and hang out with the kids that's what he's going to do.

My husband is ok with planned disturbances.

My partner and I are quite similar. If we didn’t have the children we would be work work work.
The children actually make us step back and realise we need to slow down and take a break. And when we are away we try and make sure we switch phones onto silent and sleep in to make it worth it!