It really sucks

I want so much for my boyfriend to find me sexy or even the slightest bit attractive but when I ask if he does he gives me the bs line about liking my personality, or he'll just ask what I think🙄. I mean yes I know he prefers bigger women which I am. But I know that has a limit and just cause he likes it in general doesn't mean he likes it on me. I don't have the slightest clue on how to make myself look attractive or sexy. Until him I never cared to do so. I'm 37 I've slept with probably close if not over 40 men and until him I never cared in the slightest if they liked how I look. Up until him I wore black all the time and dressed horribly in baggy clothes and dirty sneakers. With him it's so different and I want maybe even need him to find me attractive, sexy even, and I have no idea what to do.

in our community

I’m annoyed at my friend for how she treated my baby in my home.

I have a very active baby who is constantly crawling around and trying to interact with people.
My friend came over today to watch a show and eat. While we were eating, my baby kept crawling over to her because he wanted to interact with her. He wasn’t touching or even able to reach her food, and I was already feeding him my own food, but she repeatedly told him, “No dude, it’s my food.” I eventually told her she didn’t need to keep saying it because he’s still too young to understand.
Later, she got out nail glue to fix her nail. When my baby crawled over, she told him to stop because of the fumes. I told her that if she was worried about the fumes, she could put the glue away or move somewhere else because this is his home and he’s going to crawl around.
Then she put her food bowl on my sketchbook. I asked her to move it because the sketchbook is special to me. She said, “I’ll buy you a new one, they’re cheap.” She ended up spilling rice and oil on it, leaving oil stains, and also spilled rice on my couch.
The sketchbook cost $13, but that’s not the point. I specifically chose that sketchbook because I like the quality and it’s important to me. I was upset that I’d told her it was special and she dismissed it because she thought it was cheap.
I understand she’s childfree and doesn’t particularly like kids, and that’s completely her choice. But this is my home, and I don’t expect my baby to be confined or constantly told off for crawling around and trying to interact with someone. I also don’t bring him to her house because I know her home isn’t baby-friendly and I respect that.
By the end of the visit I was really upset and honestly don’t want to continue the friendship.

Potty training

When do you start using pull ups for potty training he knows how to take his diaper off and still getting used to the potty he has his days

Failure or just exhaustion?

I’m really struggling today and could use some coping tips or reassurance from anyone who’s been here

I’ve got three children, and my youngest (2 month old) has reflux (which they are having medication for) and is a very sicky, clingy baby. Most days I’m covered in sick or smelling of it, they rarely settle unless on me, and sometimes not even then. I feel like I’m constantly “on” and never get a moment to catch a breath to reset

Today my partner said he’s struggle to know how to help and although senses how overwhelmed I am the second he walks in the door he doesn’t know what to do. He said he takes on my emotions and feels the heaviness in the house when I’ve had a tough day. Hearing that has made me question everything. Am I failing? Am I making my whole house feel low?
I’ve admitted to him I feel like I’m not handling this as well as I thought I would have.

If you’ve been through this, juggling a baby who needs you constantly while trying to keep the home feeling calm, how did you cope and stay grounded? How did you stop the overwhelm from spilling into everything?

I don’t want to be overwhelmed all the time. I love my kids so much, but I’m finding it hard to cope with the relentlessness of a refluxy, clingy newborn while trying to be present for the older two. I feel stretched thin and like I’m not doing a good job for anyone.

Any advice, routines, mindset shifts, or even just solidarity would mean the world right now

Would u be irritated? Bf goes to get breakfast because I’m hungry and don’t feel good and only comes back with a chai…. So I end up making my own anyways.

I didn’t say anything and just bit my tongue on the situation

Crisps

My baby is 16 months and eats crips from the baby isle between 6+m and 12m+ I’m just wondering when and what crips you decided to go onto afterwards as I have the baby ones so much more expensive but also aware of the salt intake and additives in other crisps

Is it damaging to make a child finish their food?

We are having so many problems with our 3 year old at meal times. She doesn’t want to finish her food, comes up with every excuse under the sun (need the loo, my tummy hurts, I’m too tired). Admittedly I’ve done exactly what my parents did … always said “finish your meal please” or “3 more bites” or “no treats if this isn’t eaten”. She’ll refuse a meal and then ask for snacks or treats 10 mins later. Am I actually damaging her relationship with food?