ARFID - worried and frustrated

What started off as picky eating turned into just a handful of safe foods, which has now turned into refusing food altogether even previously safe foods (toast, yoghurt, crackers). The only thing he will now eat is fruity bake bars, ice lollies and cake - essentially just straight sugar. And sometimes crackers with cheese (tiny amounts). So we are on the radar of the nhs and have been filling in a food diary this week. It’s just so depressing. I’m worried it’s affecting his health and development so we are taking supplements but some things are difficult to supplement for - fibre (we have a fibre syrup but he hates it) and protein. Anyone in the same boat?

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UGHHHHHH

Guys, so my husband decided to put our son to sleep, but while he was still on his lap he decided to play PS5. My son woke up so my husband called me to put him to sleep. At this point I’m already annoyed cuz why couldn’t you just wait to put him down first? While I’m putting him to sleep he’s still playing games and getting annoyed that he’s losing which is distracting my son so I’m struggling to put him down. Once he was done with playing (I’m still struggling to put my son to sleep) he says “didn’t play as much as I want but it’ll do, I’m going to sleep”. My blood is boiling. Am I overreacting? I feel like I’m going insane.

Is making your husband dinner part of being a stay at home Mum?

I’m a stay at home Mum, my partner works 06:00 - 18:00 most days. Whilst he is at work I’m trying to manage the house, look after my toddler the best I can, take her to groups etc. I feel like my responsibilities include house management and my toddler, and sometimes dinner does not fit into this due to time restraints and I will give my toddler a ‘snack plate’ type meal. He feels like dinner is an expectation and part of my ‘role’ as a stay at home parent.

He will typically cook on Saturday, but every other day it is deemed as my responsibility. Thoughts on this?

How do you know when the relationship is just done?

I’m a sahm and I’ve only been married for a little over a year but I feel like I’m stuck in my relationship. Before I met my husband I was a single mom working but now I don’t have a car, I don’t work, we have moved states so I’m not near family but his sisters moved close but it’s not the same. I stay home all the time, have 2 kids, third on the way, no friends, no family, no transportation of my own, and now I homeschool my kids even though I’m not happy doing it but because he doesn’t like the idea of them in public school anymore. I’m constantly overwhelmed and just want to cry. If you were to ask me anything about me there wouldn’t be anything to tell…I no longer feel like a person just a mom,just a wife. It’s not like I haven’t told him I don’t want to homeschool…it just turns into a fight, I try to make friends but he works weekends and during the day I’m too busy cleaning cooking and schooling now plus he doesn’t like the idea of me meeting up with people I don’t really know. He doesn’t get that I need something that doesn’t revolve around everyone else I need something even if it’s 30 min coffee with someone but it’s a dead end conversation. I get we can’t afford a car right this second but I never felt so stuck before. I never saw my life being like this and there’s not point in really discussing it cause it’s always a fight. Even when he is home with the kids and me it doesn’t feel like it. He rather just watch tv and play Xbox then go out and do stuff. I love him I do but we just seem so different now. He has turned into someone who just wants to stay home says he “rather be home with family” but idk… I’ve lost my independence I’ve lost me and I just don’t know what to do anymore. I feel like I should just stay quiet and do my best to agree and make everything work. If you read this thanks for taking the time read I just couldn’t hold it in anymore and I unfortunately don’t have anyone I could talk to anymore…

It really sucks

I want so much for my boyfriend to find me sexy or even the slightest bit attractive but when I ask if he does he gives me the bs line about liking my personality, or he'll just ask what I think🙄. I mean yes I know he prefers bigger women which I am. But I know that has a limit and just cause he likes it in general doesn't mean he likes it on me. I don't have the slightest clue on how to make myself look attractive or sexy. Until him I never cared to do so. I'm 37 I've slept with probably close if not over 40 men and until him I never cared in the slightest if they liked how I look. Up until him I wore black all the time and dressed horribly in baggy clothes and dirty sneakers. With him it's so different and I want maybe even need him to find me attractive, sexy even, and I have no idea what to do.

How do you deal with friends who spend money like there’s no tomorrow but complain daily that they can’t afford food?

Like seriously expensive days out regularly, including buying souvenirs, eating at the not-cheap restaurant there, paying for entry, parking, extras, then paying monthly instalments for holidays, on top of having countless unnecessary things on finance, buying everything tesco finest and m&s and looking down on shops like Aldi.
Then when I invite them to a free day day out at a community fete where it’s free entry free games free face painting etc they tell me they can’t afford to come and are worried about covering the next food shop. I know it’s not an excuse and they are genuinely struggling but also it’s pretty obvious why they’re struggling 🙃

Am I wrong to rely solely on my kids dad to watch them when In need?

A little background but my bd and I don’t have a set schedule whatsoever when it comes to visitation for our kids although I do have all 3 of them most of the time to myself. Now I don’t have much of a village to help me with my kids so I feel as though he should be the one to watch his kids for obvious reasons he’s the only other person that’s solely responsible for them. I rarely ever go out and have time for myself and usually when I ask him to watch them it’s bc I just need a breather where I’m not constantly needed by one of the kids or have to be somewhere like a doctor visit etc. Am I wrong for not finding someone to watch the kids that’s not him?