iPad for a 2 year old?!

I’ve just found out that my MIL has just bought an iPad for my daughter for Christmas. She hasn’t asked us if it’s ok or if we would want her to have an iPad. I’m absolutely fuming because I don’t want her to have an iPad yet but my partner is being very unbothered about it. He agrees she should’ve asked but said she can just use it to watch movies like she does on our phones. I think it’s absolutely ridiculous to give her an iPad at age 2 and that we weren’t consulted.

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I see both sides. I wouldn’t allow a tablet for a 2 year old and wouldn’t be pleased if a family member bought her one without asking, but if you already give her phones to watch things on then what’s the difference…?

If anything watching movies on your phones is worse? I'm not sure I see the issue if you're fine with that.
We don't do either. Movies and TV are for the big TV only.
Just accept it, but then hide it and only use when traveling, or when they're older.

If you took issue with screen time I’d totally get it but as Charlotte says if she watches it on a phone anyway what’s the difference?

She does already have screen time yes, on the phone or big tv. But I don’t want her getting addicted to an iPad and wanting games etc on it. She should be playing with toys like a 2 year old should be. I think it’s crazy to give her her own iPad and it’s also something that me and her dad wouldn’t have done for a few years so I feel like she has overstepped and tbh it’s quite en expensive gift from a grandparent and I know she will buy more too. I personally feel the parents should be spending that most money on their child and the fact she hasn’t even asked has really annoyed me

I don't see much difference between watching things on a phone to watching on an iPad. My son has TV but no small screens. I would agree that their own iPad at 2 seems wild and would also be very upset if a family member bought one for my child.
Regardless I think the point is that it is something you are not comfortable with and someone else in your family has overridden it/overstepped your boundary. I think you need to have a conversation together about how much it upsets you and then him or you talk to her about it.

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