Breastfeeding guilt :(

Hi ladies. Lately I’ve been in my head and feeling extremely down about my breastfeeding journey and how it ended at 5.5 m PP with my daughter. I’m 9 months PP now. I stopped due to mental health reasons but can’t help be feel as though I failed her tremendously. Even though she is thriving, happy and so healthy the guilt eats away at me. Does anyone have any tips on how I could overcome this? I cry a lot about it now😭

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You did something beautiful for her for 5.5 months. Then, so that you could continue to be the best version of yourself possible for her, you switched to doing something different, but EQUALLY as beautiful, because at the end of the day, you're making sure that she is fed, cared for, and loved to the best of your ability. Breastfeeding is HARD, I say to anyone who asks about it that it's hands-down the hardest thing I've ever done. I also stopped for mental health reasons, because I couldnt hold myself together. And my son deserved the version of me that was together enough to have the patience and the presence for him, more than he needed breastmilk over formula. She won't be fundamentally affected by receiving formula, but could be by a momma who's pushing herself too hard. ❤️ give yourself grace hun. You're doing your best & that's what's most important and impactful.

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