Depression, loneliness and anxiety

I'm really struggling and I feel very alone at home. I need some support.
I'm not from here originally. I moved to be with my partner. We planned this pregnancy. I checked in with him and always asked if he was sure he felt ready.
Now I'm being made to feel like a burden.
He is incredibly frustrated to be the bread winner. He voiced that he feels trapped. We have really difficult discussion almost weekly now. I almost always walk away feeling like as the SAHM it's my responsibility to pick him back up. I do most of the parenting on my own. I have to ask him to watch our baby or to go do something as a family. He's angry and unhappy most days. I don't have very many friends here. The friends I do have here - their husband or partners are friends of my partner. So I really feel I can't vent. I feel incredibly alone. I sometimes feel like I can't cry or be upset because he then thinks I'm weaponising my feelings to shut down conversation or deflect accountability.
All the stress has affected my milk supply
I'm spiralling but trying to stay strong and happy for my baby.
I really just want one say where he goes out of his way to be nice to me. Like he's not violent or aggressive just an asshole.

Sorry these thoughts aren't organised. I'm emotional and feel crushed and am typing while nursing ( and trying not to cry). 🙃

I just wanna know I guess if anyone else has seen a change in their partner after baby arrived?
How did you overcome?

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Does your husband call your children names?

My husband gets frustrated with our toddler and doesn't cope well. I am 4 weeks postpartum after a c section and I've had a traumatic experience. He's been calling my toddler a little f*****r and a c**t. Does your other half do the same when frustrated? I feel so offended as I've gave birth to his kids and I'm the mother of his kids.

Help!

So my 10 month old has been on solids since she was 4 months and has eaten everything we have given her she does have her favourites tho so as she’s grown we have stuck to the things we know she loves but now for the past week she has been mostly refusing to eat especially at breakfast time and now it is morning I tried her with porridge which she loves but she was gagging and spitting it out so I took it away and tried her with some yogurt she spat that out so I ended up giving her some fruit biscuits and she was gagging at the sight of it what could this be down too?

I am going to call the doctors as soon as they open but I’m so confused!

I need opinions! Because I’m so mad

So my husband took the kids to his parents house so I could take a shower, eat a meal without having to stop every 5 seconds and so I could get some cleaning done, he stayed there for a couple hours and I txt him asking hey I just showered can your mom watch the kids for 15 minutes and you can come home for a quickie? He said yes he came home, I even put lingerie on and everything he’s on the bed I get on top of him before I can even kiss him he starts complaining how my foot touched him and my feet are cold, then complained my hands were like doctor hands because how cold they are so
I said ok I’m gonna just get dressed because I’m not gonna do this when you literally just want to complain when I touch you. He literally got mad and started ranting then left to go get the kids. Am I wrong for not being in the mood anymore when he literally was doing nothing but complaining about how cold I felt on him????? And just saying I have anemia and he keeps our bedroom at 70 degrees or lower with 3 fans on!

Am I overreacting?

My husband and I both work and sometimes we both work on the weekend. My MIL watches our two young children on these days (3.5 yo and 14 mo). There have been many times over the years when I have arrived home (after an 8 hour shift) to my son still in his pj's watching Netflix. I've expressed my concerns about how much tv he watches, I've also brought up that we live very close to parks and that he should not be watching too much tv, especially Netflix.
My husband doesn't care that he watches tv all day but says he prefers that he watches our VHS collection instead of Netflix.
The last few shifts I've been coming home to my son running to turn off the tv (even though I can hear the tv from outside). Or meeting me at the door to say his sister wanted to watch (insert Netflix show).
I'm starting to get really concerned with him taking advantage of my MIL. On top of that, he's starting to become secretive about what he's watching.
My husband thinks I should "chill and be grateful we have someone to watch them".
I feel like he's completely missing the point. I'm not concerned about the tv, I'm concerned about his behaviour lately.

I don’t know what the point of this post is….. word vomit

Sorry I don’t even really know what the point of this post is but I just really need to let it out to people who don’t know me 🙃
Every time something goes wrong for my husband, or he can’t find something it’s automatically ‘my fault’ to the point he’ll even call me at work to tell me it’s my fault and then takes his frustration out verbally on me.
At least 3 times a week he goes out with his mates, I tell him he needs to be up at X time because I have to get me and our son ready etc and without fail that never happens and of course it’s my fault again. When he’s hungover he locks himself in the spare room and won’t come out until I cook dinner. If I even ask for help with our son because I need to do washing, tidying, general household stuff he gets annoyed and short with our son.
It’s got to the point we don’t even have family days out anymore because he’s too hungover or can’t be bothered and I’m fed up of making excuses for him when he doesn’t show up at family events.
Sorry I know this makes zero sense and just word vomit but I needed to let it out somewhere 😭😭

Just curious how you coped when having a second

This is going to sound odd and probably laughable to some people. That’s okay.

How do you cope going from 1 to 2?

We’ve just babysat our 3 year old niece for the first time overnight with our 2 year old and my gosh we’re exhausted 😂

From refusing to go to bed, to pushing each other, to throwing things at each others heads, to multiple wakings through the night, refusing food and refusing to drink. How do you cope?

It’s really put me off having another, especially as I’ve learned how much my daughter hates sharing and gets possessive over me 😬