I don’t understand my 2-year-old son’s behavior (he’s two years old, give or take three days)
Hello, everyone,
He’s been in the care of a child care provider since late May, who took time off in July (during which he was looked after by my family and occasionally at daycare). Before her time off, things weren’t too bad. he was just still a bit reserved.
But since he went back to the child care provider three weeks ago, it’s been really tough. My son gets frustrated very quickly, gives orders (rather aggressively) to the dog and to me, and says “MINE” for everything. I’m forced to constantly scold him for everything and nothing (and raise my voice because once he’s in the middle of a “tantrum,” he doesn’t listen) whether it’s in the evening or even more and more on the weekends.
Before, like so many children, he would also express his refusal (and I’d have to raise my voice too), but much less frequently and with much less intensity. It wasn’t to the point where he’d start flailing his arms in the air.
A little girl the same age, who’s cared for by the same child care provider, acts the same wayw but even more so, and has been doing so at home for several months now (so she’s had quite a few “punishments,” “naughty moments,” and “time-outs”).
Could my little one’s recent and changing behavior be due to the fact that he’s copying his classmate? Or does he not feel comfortable there? Is this just a normal phase of the “terrible twos”?
My patience is wearing thin, especially since he still isn’t sleeping through the night (he wakes up 2 or 3 times, for varying lengths of time), the nighttime weaning that had been going well for a month and a half has fallen apart, and the atmosphere at work is tense.
Sorry for the long post, I’ve got a lot on my mind...
Thanks, and have a great weekend
Anxiety but only when we are home
Anyone else’s toddler a fun sponge at home? But when you’re out is loads of fun and super confident?
At the moment it’s like night and day which makes me want to be out of our home all day which isn’t sustainable. I’m spending a fortunes visiting places and eating out or making pack lunches to take out. But at our home she whines, cry’s loads and is super anxious. She won’t play despite us encouraging her. She even has a play room and in the garden she has a swing set and a mud kitchen, paddling poor etc... She such a lucky kid. But at home it’s all tears and she acts like she’s always worried or distressed 24/7 and I have no idea why. We try and sit and paint or colour or do messy play but she’s not having any of it. There’s always something wrong and she gets terrible separation anxiety when ever I leave a room. But when we are out she runs away from me, goes exploring and she thinks it’s funny. Obviously I don’t let her out of my sight but it makes zero sense that she can then be the opposite whilst at home.
Outside the house she’s confident, will happily play with children, appears outwardly confident and most importantly she is content.
I can’t even remember the last time I spent a day in my home and because she just clings to me like a koala bear and without sounding mean, she brings the mood down in our house.
To be clear she doesn’t ever ask to go out or visit these places I’m taking her to. She just wakes up fu🤬ked off mood and me and my husband don’t know why so we just try get out of the house as quickly as possible. But man, this kid is so loved and we love our home. We’ve made it a warm and loving place hence why we had a baby so we could spend time here as a family together. I love her so much.
Perhaps this is a random one but hoping somebody else can relate ??? And if so what on earth have you done to help the situation coz I’m all out of ideas?
