Sleep advice for 11 month old

My 11 month old has been the worst sleeper since he was born. I assumed he was low sleep needs and just tried many strategies including giving into co sleeping. Currently we are co sleeping and on average he wakes up 10 times in a night. He usually nurses back to sleep. He has no fixed bedtime despite me trying so hard. I’ve followed a lot advice including the following :

- building routine but after a bad night I just cannot get myself to wake him at 7am,
- not feeding him to sleep but he cries so much it’s unbearable
- transition to the crib during day time naps but he wakes up instantly
- feeding him extra so he isn’t hungry but he hates solids
- giving another sleep association but I’ve tried patting and introducing a lovey he resists both

He is exclusively breast fed hates the bottle and pacifier. I can go on and on about how frustrating this is. My back hurts, I have no free time and I’m just feeling helpless. I don’t want to sleep train because I can’t bear it. I don’t know how a sleep consultant will help us because everything requires crying. We spoke to a night nurse but she was suggesting a rigid 7-7 routine and trying to soothe baby without picking up and focusing on daytime sleep. My baby doesn’t nap for more than 30 mins.. This is impossible for me so any tips on what to do or what helped?

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