Family’s opinion

Baby has own cot for when he is ready. He is 6 month old and still waking every 2 hours to feed he wont be moving till A he can sleep through the night and B when he is ready. As long as your following safe sleep ignore others. When we go on holiday we put the mattress on the floor and if its still a bit soft i put a yoga mat under the sheet for him. 6 month on he is still alive no scares and no owlett alarms 👌 there is some family members who think he should be in his own bed and i just say okay.

I love cosleeping with him (even if he did poke my eye out accidently last night) there is atually a decreased chance of side over cribs if you follow safe sleep to he can hear you breathe and helps him to regulate his breathing which is pretty cool.

If this was me and I just wanted to get her off my back, I'd let her buy it, set it up, take a photo with bub in it the once and tell her it's going great, then just wait until we are actually ready 😅

I’d honestly just tell her to stop mentioning it and unless it becomes an issue for you then it’s not up for discussion. This is your child not hers, and you can’t ruin a baby by sharing your bed. I haven’t had this, but have had family go on and on when mine was little about weaning early, not carrying her too much, letting her cry and a bunch of other nonsense they didn’t actually know anything about. Ask them what’s their issue with your baby being close to their mother and they stutter. 🙄

my mil has been nagging me about the same thing. my boy is now nearly a year old and still sleeps with me. i tell her that im willing to take the risk because most of the time they only msg because they don’t think you see the risks of it. if it gets to an argument i ask why she cares who is in my infants bed 😂 id rather it be me than anyone else.

Actually at 6 months it's less dangerous because they start becoming more mobile, especially if you're following safe sleep guidelines and have a safe set up.

I've spent many nights being like omg I'm so glad you're not in a cot!


This is very much a western culture issue. If you look into places like Japan, they have the lowest SIDs rates and one of the highest cosleeping rates.

You could definitely just tell her it's not up for discussion and you're going to completely ignore her if she brings it up again. If what you actually want is to convince her, it sounds like there are two different arguments she's making. One is safety but the other is that you're "ruining" her, which presumably means she thinks a baby will never be independent if they sleep in their parent's bed.

I generally note to people who are questioning me that the safety statistics are incredibly skewed by combining careful, intentional cosleeping in a properly prepared bed with people falling asleep by accident with their baby in chairs and on couches and people who are intoxicated. It's ridiculous and makes zero sense.