Dilemma

Has anyone had it where their partner has said yes to a second baby and then suddenly changed their mind to say he categorically never wants a second? Really not sure how to navigate my feelings at the moment or what to do for the best 😔

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How old is your first? Have any of your circumstances changed recently like financially? X

First just turned 2. Nothing has changed financially.. if anything it’s going to get better financially in next 6 months. He hasn’t given a reason other than he just doesn’t want one 🥲 but I don’t understand how an opinion can change so drastically. It’s not like he’s saying not just yet but will consider in future.. it’s changed to a definite no! 😔 x

In a relationship if he’s had a change of heart that massive he needs to sit down with you and actually explain it. You can’t just not communicate something that big and expect your partner to just accept it. It’s a pretty drastic change of heart and I don’t think you’ll be able to process or address anything without knowing why x

Maybe now you’ve come out the baby stage he’s realised he can’t go back into it? Life does start to get easier (in my opinion anyway) or at least less restrictive once you aren’t tied to nap routines and feeding etc. If it looks like you could be in a better financial position coming up maybe he’s just decided that he wants to continue making life easier. Obviously all speculation! It’s really hard but worth a proper conversation to see where you both stand. Ultimately if he doesn’t want another one he shouldn’t be convinced into it and if you do want another one then you need to decide if that’s worth starting over and finding someone else that wants the same or if you would be happy in 10/15 years looking back not having had another x

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