Disciplining your child

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Connection before correction is one of the core ideas behind gentle parenting. Understand where they are coming from, settle your own emotions, and give age appropriate feedback.

I think it highly depends on age. Kids normally just need understanding, for now my girl is too young so i just redirect but as she grows I plan to go more into explaining, understanding, and natural consequences

I just thought of me and my siblings. While time outside worked for my brother...... I actually enjoyed them. So I normally got spanked lol. The point is no child is the same. Also no problem is the same. If I take something away or even spank him..... I make sure to talk to him. Mine is 15 now so in my house you hear "you better drop that or I will take you out back and we will go 9 rounds. He is 6 2 much larger than I am and he still backs down lol. Just the threat is enough lol. Punishments suck but unfortunately are necessary. Dont do it out of anger and then make sure you talk it out is my best advice. (My brother screamed blo*dy redrum whenever he was put in time out, the funniest stuff ever I swear lol)

I think secure attachments develop from day 1, and it's more than just how you respond when they're behaving in an unfavorable way.

Bonding and connection is number 1. When I'm not connecting with my child, we have a disconnect. I don't understand what she needs, she doesn't know how to convey it to me, and we're both frustrated.

I also continuously have to regulate my own self first. I wake up much earlier than her, make sure I have a clear plan for our day, and make sure all basic needs are met. When both of us are searching for direction on an empty stomach, it's just chaos.

I've also started implementing ways to call our nervous systems together. I'm going off on a tangent if I continue, but that's what helps us

I work in a nursery and until around 3/4 there is no “discipline” if they do something unkind to a friend we ask them to check on their friend and if they do not then they aren’t forced to. Because children simply don’t have the understanding at this age. There’s a book series called hands are not for hitting etc which covers a lot of unkind actions. We mainly move them away and give them some other activity to do.
if they aren’t co-operating then we slow down and do some deep breathing “blow the candle” exercises etc, or verbalise saying “you can do this or I will do it for you, you choose” sort of statements.
I don’t really feel like there is any particular behaviour of a young child that warrants any kind of specific discipline

I don't feel like I ever have to discipline my kids because I recognize they are children who are still learning. I redirect often. If something goes against a spoken expectation or rule, I remove it. I.e. "we don't throw baseballs in the house" it gets thrown. Baseball is now taken away. I also am a huge believer in natural consequences, obviously within safe measures and explained "I asked you not to do that.. this is why I said that" My kids have different temperaments but I don't feel they have ever been hard. Toddler years were rough, but that's different. Our biggest consistent issue is them either not cleaning up after themselves and thinking the expectation is mean 😂 or not doing something within the time frame asked. All teachable moments so ❤️

I think if you are only using time out and taking away then maybe that would be an issue. Should work more on emotional regulation and logical consequences and replacement behaviors ect.

But I think an occasional time out is fine personally

Conscious discipline and the Good Inside approach both use firm boundaries and unconditional positive regard, and are rooted in neuroscience and developmental psychology.

Discipline means to teach, not to punish, and the goal is fostering cooperation not coercion/obedience. It’s achieved through teaching/modelling emotional regulation, self-awareness, and providing children with the opportunity to fail/problem-solve, and sit in/process their feelings, with you as a stable guide.

It’s a marathon and not a sprint. Spanking, time outs, removing toys, and other punitive punishments might be effective short term, but they result in kids and adults who are anxious, self-loathing, untrusting, and don’t know how to self-regulate or make good decisions.