Struggling New Momma

My baby girl was born 8/14/2026, and within 4 hours of life was taken to NICU. We got to come home on Monday. During golden hour and briefly in NICU we’ve tried to latch and have been unsuccessful. She roots at breast and has got on once maybe twice but then doesn’t suckling/just goes to sleep/or won’t even attach…

Going from hospital pump to home pump has been a challenge. I’ve learned that I do require two different flanges. Been trying to stay in the every two hour pumping schedule (getting 1-1.5oz a session). We have need to use donor milk, and formula…

I’ve just felt like a failure of a momma because I just can’t get her to latch… NICU nurses said she has a good suck swallow reflex and will take bottle which is how we’ve been feeding her…

Just scheduled an in person lactation appointment as well…

in our community

Plan B or no?

Please I know I’m a dumb ass so let me just say that. My husband included. I’m 6 weeks post partum, ok to have sex again. My husband and I proceeded to have sex last night for the first time again and he did not pull out. He didn’t mean to because immediately after he realized he messed up. In his defense, we have never pulled out BUT that’s also why we have to kids close in age. However, we are done having kids and I’m going to be tying my tubes. Yes he’s still a jack ass for that and so am I.

Point is man, should I take a plan B or what should I do? :(

Finding out I’m pregnant again 5months postpartum…

So around 5 weeks ago I found out I am pregnant again. My baby is nearly 6 months now and when the second is born she will be around 13/14 months old I’m absolutely terrified as she was a c section baby and I know I’m probably going to have another c section….
She is breast fed also …

Has anyone else out there been through this already having 2 under 2 year olds, how hard is it??

any one got suggestions about stopping breast feeding before birth so second baby can have the boobs exclusively or should I start pumping and just give bottle breast milk to older child and the new born? Just looking for advice and suggestions really…

Baby boys playing with babies

What’s everyone’s opinions on boys playing with baby dolls. My little boy who’s 10 months loves playing with his baby dolls and my dad (baby’s granddad) said he shouldn’t be and he should be playing with “boys toys” I told him it will make him more caring and he will grow up to be the best dad himself. He really disagrees

Dilemma

Has anyone had it where their partner has said yes to a second baby and then suddenly changed their mind to say he categorically never wants a second? Really not sure how to navigate my feelings at the moment or what to do for the best 😔

4:30am wake up for cereal and tantrums

2 nights in a row now, he’s woken up from
Co sleeping with us (he’s had two weeks of being sick and just wanted to keep an eye on him) he’s woken up at 4:30am screaming like he’s in pain and pointing to our stairs. We found out he’s doing that because he is hungry….. any tips on to avoid this 4am wake up session to eat?

Also tantrums. How are we handling them? He’s only 16 months old and he’s throwing fits like he is 2, with little stompies and backing up, can’t tell if he is in pain but he’s been chomping on his fingers more lately and apparently holding his jaw according to my sister, so I’m thinking he’s teething and that’s causing him to wake and scream constantly.

VACCINATIONS

Is anyone’s baby not having their jabs? Or does anyone know anyone who has made the decision not to?
Unsure whether to take her.. unsure whether I trust them.