Neighbour issues

Not so much parenting or baby related but looking for advice. My nextdoor neighbour is always watching us. He stands in the upstairs window and watches me put the kids in the car. Watches from the back at us in the garden. He is an older man living alone. Every now and again his ex wife appears for a few hours and leaves not sure on the situation. The strange thing is even when we clock him he doesn't look away. He just stands there mouth open not even blinking like in a trance. Now he is in his own house and entitled to look out of his own window but as you can imagine it's making me feel ill. I can't prove he is doing anything wrong. What on earth do I do. He nearly leaves the house. Not sure if he has something up with him. I have been trying to flag down the ex wife because also he never puts his bin out and we've seen a rat. Advice welcomed.

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Nursery advice - another child let out of nursery door unattended at pick up

I've emailed the manager this evening but would appreciate some advice on if this has happened to anyone else, or any nursery workers who can reassure or advise.

A little boy from the same nursery room as my son followed another father and son out of the room and out of the front door at pick-up today.

We noticed him as he came out of the front door and asked the father if he was with him as well and he said no, at which point a member of staff came out and took the little boy back into the room. This nursery worker was in the office and I'm pretty sure only came out because she heard us asking if the boy was with him. She then took him back to the nursery room ahead of us and didn't say another to us - another nursery worker was in the office came out and didn't say anything either.

We are really concerned that he had managed to leave the room and two doors unnoticed and could potentially have left the nursery altogether.

I keep thinking that could have been my son and I feel awful that the parents don't know this could have happened.

I've written to the nursery this evening but would be interested to hear thoughts from others. I've lost complete faith in the nursery but my son is so happy there. This is an unimaginable situation and I don't know how to process it. Is emailing the nursery manager enough? Thanks xxx

Feel Like I Can’t Win With Husband

Both of us work full-time jobs, thankfully we both leave for work first thing in the morning and have his parents to watch the baby. By the time I get off work it’s 5, then he goes and cooks while I get baby time since he usually manages to get out early. After that, we eat and watch a tv series, followed by him showering then me later. Then there’s chores and other things I need to get done around the house or just adult-wise in general.

With all that said, he’s been getting upset with me this week that I’m constantly on the go, trying to complete tasks. He wants more intimacy (not even sex necessarily) and it makes me feel like I’m being a shitty wife and mom not pouring as much time directly into him and the baby. But if I stop doing all the chores, it overwhelms me and everything feels chaotic. I don’t know how to win here and it’s kinda breaking my heart…

Some guidance please 🥲

I’m a first time mom who really doesn’t have a village for support. I live far from family and friends. I stay home with my almost 2 year. The only time I’m ever away from her is when my husband stays with her.

Ive been thinking about finding a babysitter for the sake of our marriage. We need to have some time together without her. I’m just sooo scared to trust someone with my baby.

I came across a college student online who has availability. I’m going to set up a phone call to get the feel of her. How should I go about this? What questions should I ask them?

Thank you!

Marriage

Ladies, would you be comfortable with your husband being around his brother who’s also married but openly cheating on his wife and having a girlfriend? And even being on FaceTime calls with the brother and the girlfriend? I’m never around when he talks to the brother and girlfriend on the phone.

Starting solids/rude comments

So at our last vax (4 months) his nurse said it’d probably be best to start his solids at 6 months adjusted as he was born 3 weeks premature his dr (me and baby’s family dr) also said the same thing baby boy turns 5 months end of this month and whenever a family or friend is like ooou I could give you this right now I’m like well actually aha no or they’ll be like well my parents and grandparents did or well my mom has me and my ) siblings so i know what advice I’m giving you is good and they’ll be like wow just always listening to what a dr says he’s your baby you can start solids when you want it’s like maybe I’m just paranoid asf bc baby was in the nicu and it was rough pregnancy on the both of us but like what’ll happen if someone does give baby a little sauce right now or something they won’t because basically no one gets left alone with him but it makes me panic when people think it’s funny to suggest to do it and when did your little ones start solids and if you got any of these comments how would you start to react to them because saying well this is what their drs and nurses say just makes them laugh and ignore me and like i don’t really know what to tell anyone anymore or like am I crazy and he could start them tomorrow if he wanted

Am I tripping or has this man lost his mind???

We came home from picking him up from work and I’ve been having this pain in my stomach. I told him I’m in pain I need to lay down. I had planned on making dinner when I felt better but the pain didn’t go away. It’s 9pm, and the kids haven’t eaten. I fell asleep and was expecting him to figure out what we were gonna eat. While I was asleep, the kids completely trashed the place while he was playing the game. Then he comes in the room saying “what are we gonna eat, if you knew you wasn’t cooking you should’ve said that when we got home.” On top of this, he came in the room, saw how there was trash (we have a 1 year old) on the floor, and started kicking the trash to my side of the room saying “this is disgusting. I’m not cleaning this up why is it all on my side.” I had to get up, make our 5 year old a quick chicken quesadilla and some sweet potato fries. He just sat there. Then after I made her food I went back to lay down and he came and tried to physically get me out of the bed saying “you need to shower and you’re in my spot get up and go shower.” Forces me out the bed and says he’ll order something. I told him our daughter needs to get in her bedtime clothes and he needs to do night time duties with her. He didnt say or do anything. So he left it alone and after I finally got her in the bed he sat next to me and said “I don’t like eating late I’m not ordering nothing. I’m getting in the shower.” So now I have to cook for myself or just not eat. Like I don’t understand why he has to be so harsh and manipulative. Am I tripping ?