I don’t think I want any more children

It really breaks my heart as I wanted 3 children but motherhood was not what I thought it would be.
My son is nearly 10 months old and he cries, all day, every day. He doesn’t do anything, babble, crawl, transition to sitting, or copy toys.
He is exhausting, I love the absolute bones off him and it his not his fault at all but he has made me not want any more children, I feel like I’m constantly drained, upset and worrying. I don’t even think I remember the last time I smiled. I see other mums with babies the same age and they are laughing, smiling, starting to crawl or even pull themselves to cruise and he just lays there, miserable, every single day. He was never the happiest newborn, but he’s getting worse with time and I dread having to go through this again with another child. It makes me really upset as maybe the next one will have an easier time being a baby, but I don’t know if I can risk it 😭💔

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I don’t know why I posted this, I think I just needed to get it off my chest somewhere without being judged.. 😢

So sorry to be reading that you’ve been having such a difficult time. Motherhood can be so tough and draining and babies are exhausting. Have you had any discussions with GP about him being upset all the time? If he is crying all the time I wonder if he’s having some issue like stomachache or something else. I was worried sick for a while because of my baby potentially having a silent reflux which can make them cry in pain and result in delays with hitting milestones, so wonder if it’s something worth checking for your LO

Every child is different, just because your baby isn’t sitting up someone else’s is doesn’t mean you are doing a bad job!
Every child takes things their own way, don’t compare yourself to others! If you feel this way, speak to your local children services and they will be able to help you, and possibly give you some advice and guidance❤️ I would love another child myself although I’m too tired having the one! But I wouldn’t change him for the world! Xxx

All babies are so different, chances are that after having a difficult first born you would have an easier time with your second. Personally mine are the other way around, my first was a dream and so chilled, but this November baby was sent to push me to the edge 😂. He whinges from the second he wakes up, just wants to be with me the whole time, never content to just play independently, kicks off for the most minor inconvenience. Honestly looking forward to going back to work for a break. We often say if our first was like this he would be an only child 😆

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You're going out to the playground for an hour and they've been asked to take their washing out once the machine is finished.

But... The child lock is on and it doesn't open. They've never used this fairly new WM before.

Toddler not wanting to come back from grandparents

Hi,

I’m writing this with full acceptance that I may come off as a little childish to be so upset about this situation as I understand toddlers and children in general like to stay with their grandparents (who are fun) often.

A little bit of background on the situation, my parents have been a huge part of my village and are the only reliable village I have, I am extremely lucky to have them as usually always if I ask for childcare they say yes… I love how close my toddler (age 2.5) is to them, from the get go they have always been very active and involved grandparents, my toddler actually stays at their house overnight 2-3x a week due to my night shifts and I understand he loves being there.

What’s upsetting me however is my toddler is always very excited to go there, which is great, but when he comes home (sometimes it can be 3 days later if I’ve done 2 night shifts) he will be really upset and doesn’t want to come home, he doesn’t actually ask about me when he’s there… he never asks to come home. it’s like he hasn’t missed me either and genuinely just prefers being there. My Mum told me when she was bringing him home today he said he didn’t want to come home. After she left, he immediately asked to go back. It feels like he’s closer to them than me.

Any advice on this is welcome or even if anyone has gone through similar. As I say I know I may sound a little childish.

Thoughts please?

So my boyfriend has told me today that his dad said he wants a "boys day out" meaning him, baby dad, and our 6 month old.
Now I wouldn't have a problem with it if he'd made more of an effort to see him, but he doesn't bother. He lives 10 minutes away and has seen his grandson 5 times since he's been born. 3 of those times we went to him. We keep inviting him round but he's always too busy. Most of the time when he tries to hold baby he cries so after trying to help soothe him from the sidelines for a couple of minutes I take him back.
I have only been away from my baby twice and he's been with his dad. Once was for a haircut and I was gone 2 hours and another for a few hours out with a girlfriend. Both times I was less than 15 minutes from home. Being away from him gives me anxiety, and FIL wants to take him to a zoo over an hour away. Should I suck it up and allow it?

Need advice stay at home moms

I have 2 toddlers, and sometimes I wonder if I’m wrong for wanting to move closer to a bigger community.

We currently live about 30 minutes from pretty much everything. We have 2 acres, a beautiful home, and my husband absolutely loves it here. This is his dream home and his dream town. He works from home, so I understand why he loves the privacy and peacefulness.

But my experience is different. I’m the one home with the kids and the one driving them to appointments, swim lessons, activities, parks, groceries, errands, etc. Their swim class is 30 minutes away, and there’s only one doctor nearby that takes our insurance, and that’s about 30 minutes away too. Even going to a decent playground means loading up two toddlers and driving 30 minutes.

There are some things nearby, but the choices are limited. The groceries are more expensive, there aren’t many restaurants besides fast food, and the local playground isn’t in great shape. We also have mostly retired people around us, so there really aren’t many kids in the neighborhood for our children to grow up and play with.

I know some people would look at our house and think I’m crazy for wanting to leave. We have 2 acres and a beautiful home. But I’m starting to realize that having a beautiful house isn’t the only thing that makes a home work for your family.

I want my kids to have a community. I want to be closer to parks, activities, restaurants, doctors, groceries, other families, and eventually their friends and schools. I want to be able to say, “Let’s go to the park,” without it becoming a 1-hour round trip with two toddlers.

Am I wrong for wanting to move somewhere closer to everything and in a bigger community?

I don’t hate our home. I just don’t know if this lifestyle is right for me and the kids anymore. ❤️

Going out is draining!!

I have an almost 3 year old who is very energetic and a nightmare when he doesn’t have his naps or eat properly and I have an almost 9 month old and breastfeeding. Some days I really can not be bothered to go outside because it’s draining so sometimes I’m at home for 4 days straight until my son goes to my mums for the day and me and my daughter go for a stroll is this bad? I just don’t enjoy going outside with two kids feels like torture anyone in the same boat?
We don’t have a garden so I sometimes feel guilty!

Help settle a debate

So my daughter turns 3 next Saturday and yesterday we went to pick her scooter with her for her birthday. I said to my partner that she shouldn’t have to wait until next week and there is no harm in her having it now, he on the other hand said that he never got any of his presents early so she has to wait until next week to get it. I then tried to reason with him that she wants to go to the zoo for her birthday which we obviously won’t take the scooter to so she’s not even going to get to ride it on that day. He still said she has to wait. Who would you side with?