I want a second child relatively soon because of my age but I'm worried I won't be able to cope
I am an Aunty to many children mostly 10 and upwards now so I've cared for many babies and children but having my first child (who is almost 1 and I am turning 38 soon), I have just found it quite full on. Newborn days were a breeze but as days have gone on I guess with lack of sleep post 8 months I feel like it's impacting my mental health and I think these three meals a day and caring for everybody and lack of sleep. I don't know if I can do this all over again for another child. I want to be one and done but I want him to have a sibling so when we are no longer here he has someone not just his cousins.
Let me preface this by saying I know everyone's circumstances is different but I just wondered if anyone else felt similar before going on to have more children and coped OK?
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My first was a horrendous sleeper, very very sensitive and needed a lot of input and the idea of doing it all again was very very daunting. BUT I felt like you, I desperately didn’t want my boy to be an only child.
We had another and 4 months in it’s hard, I get very little downtime but I wouldn’t change it for the world to see the bond they have. They’re the first thing each other looks for when they wake up and that’s worth all the hard parts for me x
I’m in the same spot as you… following
I can't answer about 2 close together unfortunately as I left mine a good while.. I was traumatised after my 1st and had a rough time of it so I was 1 and done. Then last year decided I wanted another but I had numerous miscarriages before falling pregnant with my baby boy. My daughter is now nearly 8 and I just had a new baby. I am 37 nearly 38.
You have to do what is right for you though. No 2 pregnancies and babies are ever the same and don't be too hard on yourself
I found the first year very hard. Then loved it after that. I now have a second I’m only 8 weeks in but I’m finding the newborn stage easier this time round
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I want a second child relatively soon because of my age but I'm worried I won't be able to cope
I am an Aunty to many children mostly 10 and upwards now so I've cared for many babies and children but having my first child (who is almost 1 and I am turning 38 soon), I have just found it quite full on. Newborn days were a breeze but as days have gone on I guess with lack of sleep post 8 months I feel like it's impacting my mental health and I think these three meals a day and caring for everybody and lack of sleep. I don't know if I can do this all over again for another child. I want to be one and done but I want him to have a sibling so when we are no longer here he has someone not just his cousins.
Let me preface this by saying I know everyone's circumstances is different but I just wondered if anyone else felt similar before going on to have more children and coped OK?
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