Anyone else getting judged for not sending your little one to nursery?

My mum was a SAHM with me and encouraged me to do the same as we could afford it. I miss work a LOT but its a sacrifice ive accepted to raise my highly sensitive little boy myself.
I really do seem to get grief from all my friends though....saying he needs to go and i should also stop cosleeping and I should have let him self soothe as a baby. Im super sensitive as well and him crying is just too much for me to bear.
Anyone else?

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My MIL has made it clear that she thinks my little boy should be in nursery. We also cosleep and get unsolicited advice on that from time to time. You just have to do what is right for your baby, and for you! You are in the best position of anyone to make decisions about that.

I may be wrong but I think a lot of your friend comments may come from jealousy as they have had to go back to work and potentially would of loved to be SAHM s or spend more time with baby.

Cosleeping is biologically normal if it wasnt foe me going back to work and getting no sleep as she was up every half an hour I would of continued as I think its really beneficial for mum and baby ❤️ You are very in tune with him by the sounds and that is a beautiful bond to share. Try and brush those comments off.

I get them around my daughter being too old to bf now shes 2. Which I find crazy thats what society think when her ENT doctor suggested continuing. I plan to let her self wean anyway.

We get lots of comments too about our lo not going to nursery as our choice is to home school him as I can be a sahm. The comment that follows is but he needs to go so he can socialise with kids his own age. Which we get but we take him to toddler groups ect so he can still do that.

I also cosleep with my little boy and honestly its the best thing we have done for him and myself so im at a point where people can say what they want its not going to change how I feel about it.

You are doing the best thing for your LO. And you know what they need. Its hard when people comment especially family but id just say thank you for your opinion but we will do whats best for us and our child.

I get comments at times about my daughter being home (at 2), cosleeping and extended breastfeeding. It doesn’t change my mind in the slightest, I make it clear that I don’t want their advice and when my mum makes comments i remind her that I had no say in how she raised her children (me) so I don’t want her opinion.

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