Caring for aging parents and toddlers?

I’m curious if anyone else has an ill /aging parent right now while you are caring for a toddler? My parents live out of state and my dad is ill. I took some time off work to go visit and help but with a toddler it is so hard. I helped with cooking but still had to care for my daughter while there. Anyone else in a similar boat? He just had an emergency surgery and I want to go back but it’s so overwhelming and wondering if anyone has any advice or tips? I don’t have anyone there to help with my daughter and my husband’s work is not very flexible as far as time off.

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Yes I am caring for my 1.5 year old and my 76 year old mother who lives with us and has had numerous ongoing health problems plus trying to work full time remotely managing a department. I break down often lately feeling like I can't manage all this anymore but then somehow I pick myself up and just keep doing it. I also have a chronic autoimmune issue and the stress of this all is not helping. Try to simplify life as much as possible and let go whatever I can. But it is so hard. We also have aging in-laws that live 10 minutes away. 2 weeks ago my mom was in the hospital for a week and the day after she got out my mother-in- law went in to the emergency room with a mini stroke. It's crazy. My husband is awesome but also has an inflexible job and works well over 40 hours a week. Not sure how to make it better just know I'm there in solidarity. If you can swing at financially we have used care.com for in home support and house cleaning and sometimes Medicare will cover short term in home care.

Thanks for your message Heather. Knowing I’m not alone does help a little

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