Advice/tips please
My 5.5 month old only does 10 hours over night, if she goes to bed at 7 she gets up at 5. She’s ready to go to sleep at that time, but if she does the following day she’s ready for bed at 5/6. She’s transitioning from 4-3 naps but she tends to do shorter naps early on in the day and a longer nap later. I have to contact nap for every single one, and co-sleep at night. If I try to leave her she wakes up. I get no time in the evenings with her dad at the moment and I just don’t know how to get her into a better routine. These early mornings and 1 hour (if I’m lucky) of seeing my partner at night are killing me.
Please help 😭
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That's a really normal length of time for overnight sleep. The 12 hour 7-7 is not typical at all, whilst some babies do it the majority don't
How do people stretch the day from 5am-7pm on only 3 naps with 2hr wake windows? Her bed time is getting earlier and earlier and so is her wake up time. She went to sleep at 6pm then woke up at 4am. Mum math is driving me insane!
I’ve beeeen there. Stop looking at wake windows and what you’re “supposed” to do at that age. Stretch naps so there’s more time between them so there’s a chance she’ll go to bed later. Stretch time between naps rather than the time before bed. Don’t be afraid to get out of the house for a whole day and let naps fall where they may. The beauty of an imperfect night sleep is that you can afford to be more flexible in the day. A short nap won’t screw you over as much. If you need to stick a 10 min bridging nap in before bed, lean into that too
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Advice/tips please
My 5.5 month old only does 10 hours over night, if she goes to bed at 7 she gets up at 5. She’s ready to go to sleep at that time, but if she does the following day she’s ready for bed at 5/6. She’s transitioning from 4-3 naps but she tends to do shorter naps early on in the day and a longer nap later. I have to contact nap for every single one, and co-sleep at night. If I try to leave her she wakes up. I get no time in the evenings with her dad at the moment and I just don’t know how to get her into a better routine. These early mornings and 1 hour (if I’m lucky) of seeing my partner at night are killing me.
Please help 😭
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