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How do you plan your day knowing your baby has colic

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Do you mean like going out? I was scared to leave the house with my baby as he cried all the time. I started with little things like taking him out to the garden and then walking him in the pram round the block. I then got more confidence and I can reassure you that if you go to the supermarket and just listen, you will hear several other children cry so you won’t be alone! Just be flexible and go out knowing they will kick off at some point. Maybe take someone with you just for that extra reassurance too :)

How old is your LO? I wore mine most of the day and mainly let him watch me do things around the house and id talk and sing to him… it means that if he’s crying he feels safe near me but it also allows me the freedom to move around and not feel stuck. If his reflux allows, I’ll lie him down and do some massages which also help move some gas around to relieve him. Try not feel too bad if you dont so much with them, they can only need 5-10 mins of actual interaction during the newborn stage. Mine is now 11 weeks and I’ve only just managed to start tummy time with him (which he hates 😂)

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Missing anything???

I made a checklist for baby and I think im almost there BUT wondering if there was anything you needed but didn't know until you needed it? This is my first so my list is pretty standard I think (obvious bits) .. any input would be appreciated 💕

I’m not coping

My 5 week old seems so unhappy. I don’t understand whats wrong. She hates being put down. She sleeps fine for the first half of the night, after her night feed she spends the next 3 hours grunting and squirming. She will have a bottle then squirms and cries after it, but not always. I feel like i’m failing her.

Accountability/apologising/emotional manipulation

I guess I am not going incognito because if anyone wanted to reach out they could

Throughout my current relationship (4.5years) it has been made clear to me that i have a lot of unattractive and difficult traits. I guess prior to meeting my partner I just believed I was just how I was? I had never done "deep inner work" " spiritual work" "self improvement" i had done it professionally and i guess i had phases where physically i did better but ultimately I have been told and i do see a lot of it that i find it hard to say sorry, to take accountability, i feel constantly attacked and offended and any conflict does make me most of the time walk out or say i need space i find it so over whelming.

Im currently having my 3rd baby in 3.5years and my son (2yrs2mo) had a liver transplant when he was 7mo old so a lot of hospital time, also my partner had a long long history of drug addiction which he overcame but he has not worked 95% of our relationship, i did before my 1st and 2nd but not since my son was diagnosed at 7wks old.

Im asking for maybe someone somewhere for advice or a chat, i keep feeling like im a narcissist, a bad mom a bad partner, i feel like my family are better off without me sometimes YET i have always tried so so hard to keep our whole life together shielding my family from any outside shit and ive handled every prescription/appointment, i do 99% of the housework and cooking, im not in contact with family and i cut off all my old friends pretty much then moved 4hrs away so no social support

Is anyone hearing this?

Thanks fran x

Happier babies

When did your babies become happier ( if they were a fussy baby).
My baby just seems unhappy a lot of the time, if he’s not asleep or feeding he’s usually fussy and crying.
He has moments where he’s calm and engaging and it’s lovely but mainly he does just seem unhappy.
Does it get better? He’s 9 weeks old.

Food shop, no car?

Hiya, I'm a FTM to a 9 week old baby and I do not drive.
I cannot for the life of me figure out how to do a food shop with the buggy (basinet or carseat).
Please can someone explain it like I'm a 2 year old 😂.
I am more than happy to babywear if thats part of the solution.
Asda have the carseat trolleys which I thought was a good idea (carseat clips onto buggy) but then I'd have nowhere for the bottom of the buggy to go, is there somewhere they'll let me leave it? 😂🤦🏻‍♀️
Wedging a basket on the pram while babys in the carrier is not cutting it anymore 😂

Putting baby down

My baby girl is only a week old, so I understand this post may seem silly!
However, during the nights, I’m finding it difficult to transfer her back to her crib after getting her back to sleep following a nappy change and bottle. She stays on me for a good 20-30mins (if not, sometimes longer) after her feed so I know she’s in a deep sleep. As soon as I move her to her crib, she wakes up immediately and cries. My heart absolutely aches for her because I love the contact naps, but last night I could feel myself nodding off with her on my chest so I know I can’t safely allow her to do it during the night. During the day she’s absolutely fine. Does anyone have any advice on what may help, please?
She hates the swaddle haha, my scent is on her sheet, I soothe her when I put her down…I’ve done pretty much all the tricks that I’ve read upon!
I know it may seem silly considering her age, but I’m thinking from a safety perspective and would appreciate any advice!
Thank you in advance :) x