Best mom car? 🚙

For 3 kids all still in carseats. They would be 4, 2, and newborn. Possibly more in the future!
We currently have a 2008 Toyota Highlander

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How to approach advice

Hi mummas, I’m just wondering if anyone else feels this way since becoming a mum.

How do you feel when it comes to receiving advice from family, friends or other people about your baby and the way you parent?

I completely understand that most people mean well, and sometimes advice can genuinely be helpful. But I’ve noticed that when I’m constantly being told what I should or shouldn’t be doing, or hearing things like “you should do this,” “try this,” or “I used to do it this way,” I can start to feel really frustrated and overwhelmed.

Sometimes I don’t necessarily want advice—I just want to be able to talk about something without feeling like I need to change what I’m doing. I also feel like constantly hearing other people’s opinions can sometimes make you second-guess yourself as a mum, even when you were originally confident in your own decision.

I’m curious whether other mums feel the same way. Do you usually appreciate advice and take it on board, or do you sometimes find yourself becoming frustrated by it? Have you found that becoming a mum has made you want more space to figure things out for yourself and trust your own instincts?

No judgement either way—I’d genuinely love to hear how other mums feel about this.

Breastfeeding is best?

Why does every post about breastfeeding get full of comments like "fed is best" and reasons why people couldn't breastfeed??

Sorry but do you think breastfeeding is easy? Like just because im breastfeeding is must have had a baby that just hopped on, no pain, smooth birth?

I couldn't breastfeed day 1, used formula to top up for a few days and coped with horrible pain to do it because breastfeed is best. I will do whatever is best for my babies and that is breastfeeding.

It was never the easiest and hurts everyone to start. Stop saying you couldn't when you just chose not to. Some people can't post mastectomy or adoption etc but for alot of those that posted. They could and made a choice. You don't need to go around saying "fed is best" to diminish the hard work, pain and hours that have gone in to a breastfeeding mums journey.

Mil drama

We dint let our MIL know that we were expecting our second one.But she planned her vacation around my due date and she is here with us from day one of our baby.She already complained twice to my husband that i am not letting her to hold my baby.This was when the baby was just 7 days old.She is not helping me with anything else , but interested in holding the baby all the time.I told her it will be helpful if you can free up some of time with cooking and housework, so i can spend more time with the baby.We do have a three year old who is going to daycare M-F, she is least interested in playing or engaging with him.Since the baby is two weeks old today, i was keeping her on the Momaroo baby swing near to my husband office, baby started crying and within a minute MIL rushed and tried to take her from the swing.I was near to swing patting her and my husband was watching us.I told her no need to hold the baby now and she just left and i can see that she was grumpy already, noticing that husband told me to give baby and i tried and she said no need.

Is this normal behavior?

My MIL smells my kids feet every time we go over! She will do it in the most random of times and I think it’s odd behavior! She will also eat something that they took a bite out of every-time as well and again I think that’s odd behavior, she goes out of her way to do those things every-time we see her! Anyone else know someone who does this?? My kids are 2 and 6 btw.

Breastfeeding after bottle

Hello!
Due to various reasons we had to start feeding our baby with formula from birth - the main one was my milk coming in late. Ofc, baby got used to the bottle. I have been pumping and feed him expressed milk

Has anyone managed to get back to breastfeeding after bottle e feeding for a considerable amount of time? (2 months in our case)?

If you used a lactation consultant, was it successful? And how many sessions did it take?

Thanks in advance for your replies.

Development Concerns

I'm hoping for a bit of reassurance or some solidarity! My son is just over 9 months and doesn't babble and doesn't seem to know his name although this is variable amoung family members. Certainly for me its massively inconsistent. He is working really hard on crawling..lots of rocking and also sitting from crawling and crawl from sitting. He is also trying to pull up. He is generally quite a quiet kid. He does scream, squeals, coo and lots of ahhhs! Uhs and raspberries. Any similar experiences? X