Violent outbursts

I’d put in a reward chart and reward the positive. In terms of when the negative incidents occur have you tried her sitting on a step, getting down to her level and talking about why she is there after a minute or two

I cant help but just to say we are going through the same. The anger coming out of him is a new level and he mainly hits me but also my husband and sometimes his little sister although it’s clear he’s not as rough with her. We have found removing his sister and leaving him with one person helps end it sooner although isn’t reducing the frequency of it happening yet. We also move away from him and say we won’t let you hurt us. I’m hoping it’s a phase with school starting and his little sister is now walking and getting a lot more in his space and attention. He doesn’t tend to do it in public only at home

Same here as well. He’s scratching, throwing toys and hitting. Only directed at me. I can’t quite work out why or the triggers but it’s awful.