Scared of losing bond with my baby after daycare starts

13months. Going to daycare in about a month, and I already am not the favourite parent, she only wants me for comfort and bedtime. All about hubby during the day to play - when she was younger, she screamed at me all day but only smiled for her dad. I only got smiles like 9 months onwards.

She loves MIL more than anyone right now- at her baptism and various other special occasions I wanted to share with her, she was throat punching me to jump out of my arms into MIL’s arms. Our photos together at these events are all forced, and she’s crying. All her special moment photos are with MIL. To be fair, she doesnt want hubby either when MIL is around lol.

I am scared that when I start work and she goes to daycare, we will have even less time and she will care about me even less.

Anyone else deal with this? Daycare and already not being the favourite parent? My heart is crushed every weekend, when she spends time with my hubby and MIL. She doesnt look for me, and if I leave and come back she barely acknowledges when I return. My heart is already breaking

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I been their girl it will be fine them babies gone always love momma and want attention from u after daycare my son comes right under me and craves attention from me after a long day in daycare it’s so reassuring as I felt the same way about him loosing the bond and connection we built and shared don’t worry momma ur baby ain’t gone loose focus on u

I think its a bit normal especially when baby has a community and tribe. My baby comes to me for comfort etc as well and loooooooves the fun she gets with daddy and aunt and grandma. She is a kid. And i think variety and fun causes them to have excitement for people they dont see as often. Have u done a trial run for daycare as well? Leaving her for a few hours versus whole day. My lil screams when i try to leave her at gym daycare. She thrilled for time with daddy and grandma but i worry a but about leaving her at daycare as she seems really stressed.

You won't lose your bond ❣️ she will probably be so excited to see you when you pick her up. It will fill up your heart ❤️

SAHM with a 10 month old , tearing up ! Omg ❤️

It actually helped with my husband not being the favourite that he went to pick her up and she was really happy to see him and give him a cuddle (if I’m there he doesn’t get a look in). It’s massively helped their bond to do that. If possible I’d get dad to do drop off and then you do pick up so you’re seeing the benefit.

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