Am I being emotional?

My husband and I have always been very honest about boundaries, especially about not having close friends of the opposite sex because we both have been cheated on...

I noticed he is texting his best friends wife almost every day. And I mentioned it one day and said "thats a lot of paragraphs going out to another woman"

He said his ex got mad about him being friends with this woman so he stopped talking to her and it made them mad because he basically ghosted her. And in the end his ex was the one cheating not him. All I said was its just not a good look...I know they have all been friends a long time

I am 29 weeks pregnant so I know I may be emotional... but I want to know do you guys think its inappropriate for a married man to text a married woman every day? I dont think its sexual, but i feel like thats an emotional connection to another woman, especially since her husband (his best friend) is going through some depression and kind of checking out.

Meanwhile my husband is in the gym 6 days a week looking the best hes ever looked while im pregnant with our third baby just getting bigger and bigger every day.

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𝕊𝕚𝕟𝕔𝕖 𝕪𝕠𝕦 𝕙𝕒𝕧𝕖 𝕓𝕠𝕦𝕟𝕕𝕒𝕣𝕚𝕖𝕤 𝕒𝕓𝕠𝕦𝕥 𝕓𝕖𝕚𝕟𝕘 𝕗𝕣𝕚𝕖𝕟𝕕𝕤 𝕨𝕚𝕥𝕙 𝕥𝕙𝕖 𝕠𝕡𝕡𝕠𝕤𝕚𝕥𝕖 𝕤𝕖𝕩, 𝕓𝕖𝕔𝕒𝕦𝕤𝕖 𝕠𝕗 𝕓𝕠𝕥𝕙 𝕠𝕗 𝕪𝕠𝕦𝕣 𝕡𝕒𝕤𝕥 𝕖𝕩𝕡𝕖𝕣𝕚𝕖𝕟𝕔𝕖𝕤 𝕀 𝕥𝕙𝕚𝕟𝕜 𝕙𝕖 𝕚𝕤 𝕚𝕟 𝕥𝕙𝕖 𝕨𝕣𝕠𝕟𝕘 𝕒𝕟𝕕 𝕤𝕙𝕠𝕦𝕝𝕕 𝕤𝕥𝕠𝕡 𝕥𝕒𝕝𝕜𝕚𝕟𝕘 𝕥𝕠 𝕥𝕙𝕖 𝕨𝕠𝕞𝕒𝕟.

ℍ𝕠𝕨𝕖𝕧𝕖𝕣, 𝕀 𝕥𝕙𝕚𝕟𝕜 𝕚𝕥'𝕤 𝕒𝕝𝕤𝕠 𝕚𝕞𝕡𝕠𝕣𝕥𝕒𝕟𝕥 𝕗𝕠𝕣 𝕙𝕚𝕞 𝕥𝕠 𝕘𝕚𝕧𝕖 𝕙𝕖𝕣 𝕒𝕟 𝕖𝕩𝕡𝕝𝕒𝕟𝕒𝕥𝕚𝕠𝕟 𝕣𝕒𝕥𝕙𝕖𝕣 𝕥𝕙𝕒𝕟 𝕛𝕦𝕤𝕥 𝕘𝕙𝕠𝕤𝕥𝕚𝕟𝕘 𝕙𝕖𝕣, 𝕝𝕚𝕜𝕖, "ℍ𝕖𝕪, 𝕞𝕪 𝕨𝕚𝕗𝕖 𝕚𝕤 𝕦𝕟𝕔𝕠𝕞𝕗𝕠𝕣𝕥𝕒𝕓𝕝𝕖 𝕨𝕚𝕥𝕙 𝕞𝕖 𝕥𝕒𝕝𝕜𝕚𝕟𝕘 𝕥𝕠 𝕪𝕠𝕦, 𝕓𝕖𝕔𝕒𝕦𝕤𝕖 𝕨𝕖 𝕙𝕒𝕧𝕖 𝕒 𝕓𝕠𝕦𝕟𝕕𝕒𝕣𝕪 𝕒𝕘𝕒𝕚𝕟𝕤𝕥 𝕓𝕖𝕚𝕟𝕘 𝕗𝕣𝕚𝕖𝕟𝕕𝕤 𝕨𝕚𝕥𝕙 𝕥𝕙𝕖 𝕠𝕡𝕡𝕠𝕤𝕚𝕥𝕖 𝕤𝕖𝕩 𝕙𝕒𝕧𝕚𝕟𝕘 𝕓𝕠𝕥𝕙 𝕓𝕖𝕖𝕟 𝕔𝕙𝕖𝕒𝕥𝕖𝕕 𝕠𝕟."

𝔻𝕖𝕗𝕚𝕟𝕚𝕥𝕖𝕝𝕪 𝕚𝕟𝕤𝕚𝕤𝕥 𝕙𝕖 𝕘𝕚𝕧𝕖𝕤 𝕒𝕟 𝕖𝕩𝕡𝕝𝕒𝕟𝕒𝕥𝕚𝕠𝕟 𝕚𝕟𝕤𝕥𝕖𝕒𝕕 𝕠𝕗 𝕛𝕦𝕤𝕥 𝕘𝕙𝕠𝕤𝕥𝕚𝕟𝕘 𝕙𝕖𝕣, 𝕓𝕖𝕔𝕒𝕦𝕤𝕖 𝕥𝕙𝕒𝕥 𝕨𝕠𝕦𝕝𝕕 𝕤𝕠𝕝𝕧𝕖 𝕙𝕚𝕤 𝕨𝕠𝕣𝕣𝕚𝕖𝕤.

ℍ𝕠𝕨𝕖𝕧𝕖𝕣, 𝕀 𝕨𝕚𝕝𝕝 𝕤𝕒𝕪, 𝕟𝕠𝕣𝕞𝕒𝕝𝕝𝕪, 𝕚𝕗 𝕪𝕠𝕦'𝕣𝕖 𝕥𝕒𝕝𝕜𝕚𝕟𝕘 𝕥𝕠 𝕒𝕟𝕠𝕥𝕙𝕖𝕣 𝕞𝕒𝕣𝕣𝕚𝕖𝕕 𝕡𝕖𝕣𝕤𝕠𝕟 𝕥𝕙𝕒𝕥 𝕚𝕤 𝕒 𝕡𝕣𝕖𝕥𝕥𝕪 𝕘𝕠𝕠𝕕 𝕤𝕚𝕘𝕟 𝕥𝕙𝕒𝕥 𝕪𝕠𝕦'𝕣𝕖 ℕ𝕆𝕋 𝕔𝕙𝕖𝕒𝕥𝕚𝕟𝕘, 𝕓𝕖𝕔𝕒𝕦𝕤𝕖 𝕓𝕠𝕥𝕙 𝕠𝕗 𝕪𝕠𝕦 𝕒𝕣𝕖 𝕞𝕒𝕣𝕣𝕚𝕖𝕕 𝕥𝕠 𝕤𝕠𝕞𝕖𝕠𝕟𝕖 𝕒𝕟𝕕 𝕚𝕟 𝕒 𝕔𝕠𝕞𝕞𝕚𝕥𝕥𝕖𝕕 𝕣𝕖𝕝𝕒𝕥𝕚𝕠𝕟𝕤𝕙𝕚𝕡 𝕒𝕝𝕣𝕖𝕒𝕕𝕪.

𝔸𝕟𝕕 𝕚𝕥'𝕤 𝕝𝕚𝕜𝕖𝕝𝕪 𝕥𝕙𝕖𝕪'𝕣𝕖 𝕛𝕦𝕤𝕥 𝕓𝕠𝕟𝕕𝕚𝕟𝕘 𝕠𝕧𝕖𝕣 𝕥𝕒𝕝𝕜𝕚𝕟𝕘 𝕒𝕓𝕠𝕦𝕥 𝕥𝕙𝕖𝕚𝕣 𝕞𝕒𝕣𝕣𝕚𝕒𝕘𝕖𝕤 𝕒𝕟𝕕 𝕝𝕚𝕧𝕖𝕤 𝕒𝕟𝕕 𝕤𝕥𝕦𝕗𝕗. 𝕄𝕠𝕤𝕥 𝕡𝕖𝕠𝕡𝕝𝕖 𝕝𝕚𝕜𝕖 𝕙𝕒𝕧𝕚𝕟𝕘 𝕤𝕠𝕞𝕖𝕠𝕟𝕖 𝕥𝕠 𝕓𝕣𝕒𝕘 𝕒𝕓𝕠𝕦𝕥 𝕥𝕙𝕖 𝕡𝕖𝕣𝕤𝕠𝕟 𝕥𝕙𝕖𝕪'𝕣𝕖 𝕞𝕒𝕣𝕣𝕚𝕖𝕕 𝕥𝕠.

ℍ𝕖 𝕞𝕚𝕘𝕙𝕥 𝕛𝕦𝕤𝕥 𝕓𝕖 𝕥𝕒𝕝𝕜𝕚𝕟𝕘 𝕥𝕠 𝕙𝕖𝕣 𝕒𝕓𝕠𝕦𝕥 𝕙𝕠𝕨 𝕞𝕦𝕔𝕙 𝕙𝕖 𝕝𝕠𝕧𝕖𝕤 𝕪𝕠𝕦 𝕒𝕟𝕕 𝕙𝕠𝕨 𝕒𝕞𝕒𝕫𝕚𝕟𝕘 𝕪𝕠𝕦 𝕒𝕣𝕖, 𝕒𝕟𝕕 𝕤𝕙𝕖 𝕚𝕤 𝕝𝕚𝕜𝕖𝕝𝕪 𝕕𝕠𝕚𝕟𝕘 𝕥𝕙𝕖 𝕤𝕒𝕞𝕖 𝕒𝕓𝕠𝕦𝕥 𝕙𝕖𝕣 𝕙𝕦𝕤𝕓𝕒𝕟𝕕.

No you’re not being overally emotional. ❤️❤️. You’re feeling this way for a reason because of someone else’s actions. Pluss your pregnant and it’s easy to be sensitive, which your not

We both have opposite sex friends and he has a Latino girl bestie but she’s a masculine lesbian and has her own longterm gf, they just vibe really well and poke each other w jokes and teases so I’ve never felt threatened by their friendship. However, he’s never texted someone’s wife every day forming a connection like that. Once in a blue moon, asking her something about his friend, or if he can’t get in touch w that friend, or just a question yes he’ll text his friends wife through FB, he doesn’t even have her number. Not for a full convo though. What is the need? There’s no need. I have guy friends, but I chat and see them at hobby, at dance. They are my dance partners that become friends. I don’t chat or see them outside of dance hours/dance events and that’s the boundary I have for myself to keep my man’s mind at ease. Your concern is valid because he shouldn’t be doing that.

Them texting everyday is weird. What are they even talking about? My partner has a friend that’s a girl. He knows her from high school and is also friends with her husband. He sells Pokémon cards to her. They kind of just nerd out together and the texts are innocent. Could be something along these lines but everyday is a lot.

Also, it’s wild that he has time to go to the gym 6 days a week with 2 kids and a pregnant wife…

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Coparent asking to use my bathroom

For background, we’ve not been on the best terms. This annoys me and I find it so odd and intrusive! My son’s dad drops him off at my house. They usually either come from his house, or from being out at a public place with bathrooms. Every so often, he will ask to use my bathroom. It makes me uncomfortable. We have a very small place with one bathroom, and I don’t want him in my space. Usually, I reluctantly say okay. But today I had just got out of the shower and the bathroom was not the neatest/cleanest. I said, the bathroom’s kind of messy. He reluctantly said, okay, like I’m a jerk. I’m just like, use your own bathroom, or use the bathroom at the public place you just came from!

Do you find it odd that my coparent asks to use my bathroom?

Should I give him an overnight

My bd has 6 hour visits on Saturdays rn, yesterday I was soooo overstimulated and energy just wiped…I nearly called him to come get his daughter 😩😭 he’s currently on a step up plan and this is week 4 I think? I feel like I need time w/o the baby…she’s 3. Should I tell him to keep her until the morning? Or should I still to the plan and stuck it up? I just don’t wanna make the wrong move, but I know sometimes when a lot is going on space is good for everybody 😞🫠🥲

Is this normal behaviour?

I was almost three months postpartum after having a C-section, with a crying baby and very little sleep. I hadn’t been sleeping properly for weeks. My husband was working during the day, and when he came home at night, he would help me a little with the baby before going to sleep because he had to work again the next day.

When my baby was almost three months old, my husband had a week off work because his parents were coming to visit for the first time to meet the baby. I had so many expectations. I hoped that his mum would help me, or at least offer to help.

The house was a mess and desperately needed cleaning. At that point, I was extremely anxious and sleep-deprived because the baby would only sleep in my arms. Since giving birth, the only times I had left the house were for the baby’s doctor appointments. I wasn’t okay.

So, when my in-laws arrived, I expected that they might at least offer to help with some household chores. But they didn’t. Every evening, my husband and his parents would sit downstairs, drinking and spending time together. When nighttime came, they went to bed. Meanwhile, I was upstairs trying to settle the baby.

I had to text my husband multiple times and ask him to come and hold the baby so that I could get even an hour of sleep. When he did come, he didn’t say anything, but I felt as though I was ruining his time with his parents. That happened every night.

The next day, the three of them went out to visit nearby places while I was left at home alone with the baby because there wasn’t enough space in the car. The following day, my husband invited his friends—a family with a four-year-old child—to meet his parents.

The house became even messier because nobody was cleaning, while everyone was contributing to the mess, including me.There were bottles and breast pump parts everywhere because I was pumping milk, and I simply didn’t have the time or energy to keep everything tidy.

While his friends were visiting, they cooked something outside. The three of them—my husband and his parents—went outside together, while my husband’s friend, while his wife and their daughter, were left inside the house alone. I went downstairs to keep them company while holding my baby. After a few minutes, the baby woke up and started crying.

I remember feeling exhausted and overwhelmed. I was wearing dirty clothes with milk stains on them, I hadn’t showered for days, and I felt like I was about to cry.

I went back upstairs with the baby, settled him, and then returned downstairs. By then, they had set the table and started eating while I was still holding the baby.

That’s when my mother-in-law said, “I would take the baby so you could eat, but he will cry, so…” And then they simply continued eating.

That night, I told my husband that I didn’t like how I was being treated and that I needed help. He did help me, but the feeling was still there. He looked at me as though I was the worst person for keeping him away from his parents or ruining his time with them.

Eventually, it was time for his parents to go home. They left behind a mess, and my husband took them to the airport while I was left at home sorting everything out.

Later, I spoke to my husband again about their behaviour. I explained exactly what had been bothering me. He told me that he understood and that he was sorry.

But since then, he has continued to look at me in the same way he did when his parents were here, and he still doesn’t help much with the baby.

What bothers me the most is that I now feel as though I did something wrong.

I keep questioning myself and wondering whether I was wrong for feeling upset, overwhelmed, and disappointed. But at that time, I was a first-time mother recovering from a C-section, severely sleep-deprived, isolated, anxious, and struggling to cope. I wasn’t asking for perfection. I wasn’t asking anyone to take over completely. I just needed support.

And instead of feeling supported, I felt invisible, and to be honest, I am ashamed for what happened. I am ashamed that happened to me.

Sorry for the long story, but I need someone to tell me that I am not crazy for feeling left out.

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I need your help !

I feel like we mother naturally worry more for our baby. I constantly look for any hazards and dangers and being maybe a little overbearing at times

My partner is fearless ( but he of course always make sure baby is safe ).

We have had a heated discussion this evening. Tell me if I’m being unreasonable.

He wanted to put our 13 month in his lap and slide down the stairs . I interfered straight away and he got frustrated because she is safe with him.

I just don’t want her to learn that the stairs is a fun toy and sliding down it if (god forbid ) she would get to it unsupervised. I feel like you can have fun with your child without being reckless .

But my partner thinks I’m being to anxious and it’s harmless . But I feel like it is very valid . What do you think ?