My husband is having his 2nd nap of the day.

Talk to him, delegate tasks

So leave him or go to counseling

I hate to ask this because I know a lot of us have had the thought of "I shouldn't have to... Etc" but have you been very specific with him on what you need help with? Or have you just asked for more help. From stories I've heard from other women they can ask for help but nothing gets done because their man "Didn't know what they needed help with exactly" some of them really do need a step by step of shit that needs done and I understand that can be incredibly frustrating and feel like you're babysitting a grown man and taking on more mental load by giving him a chore list. But they really don't compartmentalize necessary things the way we do. Not all of them, but most of them need the extra direction.
You being upset that he's napping while you're working on XYZ is the build up of resentment and if you don't want to resent your partner, you're gonna have to give him some grace and really figure out a way to communicate in a manner he'll understand. Again. Frustrating I know. Trust me. I get it.

But it's either that, like the person above said 'counseling' or if it's truly that bad and unbearable you may have to give the ultimatum of "Get it together or get the fuck out" but obviously in a nicer way. People don't respond to kindly when it's worded like that 😅
Either way I wish you the best of luck and I hope he gets it together.

File for divorce.. that’ll put him in his feet. Ask for spousal support. These lazy men never learn till you hit them like a car wreck!