Grieving when you're a mom

My mom died unexpectedly August 16th, a day before my would be wedding.

Grieving when you have kids, feels impossible. My 2 year old doesn't get it, but my 6 year old hates to see me cry. I try to not when he's around, but my entire house reminds me of my mom and on bad days I can't help it. I feel guilty for grieving because it's upsetting him. I also feel hurt because neither kid is really asking about her. I know that's completely irrational and unfair, but this entire situation seems unfair.

Anyways, just needed to rant a bit. Maybe someone else can relate. Thanks for reading 🤍

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I don’t have much to say but your feelings are valid. So much love and solidarity to you. Hoping that you are able to grieve and come out of it as a woman who can remember her mom with a smile on her face. I’m sure your mom is watching over you.

Feel free to message me if you want to talk. I’d be happy to listen and be a shoulder to cry on. I was (and still am) in the same boat. My mom died the same month we started TTC. I got pregnant pretty quickly after she died and then we lost the baby. And next month will mark 20 years since my dad’s passing. Wow I still can’t even believe it’s been that long. I know grief all too well unfortunately and it’s SO, SO hard. Especially when it’s fresh and even worse once you become a mom yourself. I’m here for you. Big hugs. 🩷

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Can we talk vaccinations?🙏🏼

Question for the mums 🩷

Are you/have you vaccinating/vaccinated your baby? 💉

If yes, what made you decide to vaccinate? Are you glad you did?

And if not, I’d love to hear your reasons why.

No judgement either way… just interested in hearing different parents’ thoughts and experiences. 🤍

15 months behaviour

Hey mums. I am struggling bad with my little girl at the moment. she is going through a stage where she will scream at anyone who looks at her. She’s also biting people and biting herself when she gets angry or gets told no. Definitely the terrible twos come early.

Stopping bottle

My 2.5 year old is still drinking the bottle( normal milk) which I know he shouldn’t but it’s only once at night to sleep as I have a 4 month old and it’s difficult to put them both down, how do I stop the bottle?

Please help - breastfeeding first time mum

The first 2 nights with baby I’ve had to set alarms to feed her as she would happily just sleep all the way through without waking. Tonight she’s doing the opposite🤣
I’ll feed her, put her in her next to me, within 2 mins she’s crying and showing hunger ques. So I feed her again…the process continues. She’s been in and out of this next to me about 8 times now. I don’t think it’s got anything to do with hunger I think it’s just comfort because she will happily stay sleeping on me. (Bed sharing isn’t really an option as we only have a small double bed + share with our dog, it’s already too cramped so I really do want her to be able to sleep in her own safe space). I’ve got her in a love to dream swaddle too to try to settle her but doesn’t seem to be helping. Anything else I can try ??

Appointments Alone

Any advice on going to appointments alone 🥹❤️‍🩹trying to stay strong and make it seem like it doesn’t bother me but it’s starting to get to me 😕..I’m trying my hardest to not cry so much with my baby boy but only Lord knows this pain that I’m trying to suppress 💔

My husband is having his 2nd nap of the day.

He’s also been unemployment for almost a year. I’m so sick of his shit.