Once a cheater, always a cheater!

I’ve learnt just last night that cheaters absolutely do not change, when I was 6 weeks postpartum with my first child I found out my partner was talking to escorts and women online, he begged me, I thought about the new baby and I forgave him, a year later, I am 5 weeks postpartum with our second and I’ve just discovered a secret Snapchat where he is talking to multiple women, I’m broken, I’m numb, I know I need to leave, but I’m on maternity leave and I have two kids, I know he can get mean when he wants to, so I know if I leave I’m not getting anything. How do I act unbothered until I’m back to work and I can afford to move. (P.S he apologized with the “it’s not what you think line”)

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Girl. Take screenshots. Document everything. Hide any and all evidence on a hidden folder on your phone that needs your FAceID to access. Grab your phone and take a pic of any cheating/abusive behaviour you see on his phone. Secretly Record all arguments or when he’s getting “mean”. When you’re ready even years from now and you’re sorting out custody etc you can take that all to court show the judge and the sympathy will be on your side and you won’t walk away empty handed because HE the one that F*d up. Act unbothered, while compiling any and all evidence against him. Up to you whether you ever use that or not, but it’s there. Start building a portfolio of his stupidity and you can walk away w your chin held high. When that time comes

I agree with what kellie says but as long as you are all safe. If your not safe that's different? But yeah at the moment, I would be gathering as much information and making plans for the future. When you feel a bit sad, remember your end goal and your beautiful children xxx

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