Venting! Am I in the wrong?

I voted your in the wrong by mistake! Could you just say, you appreciate he wants to do it but could he possibly wait until baby is a bit older until you’ve found your feet with having two children. So it’s not a no, it’s a not just yet please.

I think when baby is a bit older then it's more realistic, but at the moment as baby is due to arrive soon I wouldn't want my partner disappearing one day a month!

Definitely take your spa days

But like make sure you tell him that now, so he knows what he's signing up for

My hubby has a games night away every 6 weeks or so and I go out with the girls twice a month. We have a 2yo and 3 months and this arrangement has been going on for a year or so. You both need time apart and away and I don’t think it should be about the amount of time away but more about the benefit it gives the person. Could a compromise not be made? X

Yeah he needs to be home supporting you as you won't have as much time for toddler with recovery from birthing a human and hormone crash of postpartum.
Not all births and postpartums are the same, different per each baby.
He chose to be a dad and this is his time to shine with the care of toddler, managing the house chores/cooking and giving mum time for showers all while Mum recovers.

Idk what is that but if it's 1 day a month I honestly think it's not bad. I would just told him to wait until the baby is a month old so you can get a routine going. Then when he takes his day you do the same either before his or a soon as he comes back and you relax. If he had a problem with that then that's when he'd wrong and crazy but you both would need a break. Regardless of baby temperament

If it was somewhere close to home then no issue but the fact he has to go to Scotland isn’t ideal at all! Understandably if he had to travel for work to provide for the family but if he wants to do it for just enjoyment then I wouldn’t be happy either… now is not the time he needs to be with you, plus once you sign up to these things they’re a big commitment and might be called for more days than initially anticipated
I would say he’d have to wait until at least after a few weeks once baby is born and you’re more settled/supported..🤷🏻‍♀️

I don't think it's that bad. Will there be no days at all that you're alone? It's the same thing. And maybe you should book a spa day. I don't believe we need to just be with our children 24/7. Seems like self care for the both of you.

That being said, I'm not familiar with a mastermind and not sure if it's more than a day trip for someone to attend.

I personally think 1 day a month is reasonable & you also SHOULD take a spa weekend once a month anyway too.

Absolutely not unreasonable at all. You can look after your own two kids for 1 day a month. If this was a woman saying a guy was stopping him, it would be seen as so controlling. And yes, I had to look after my newborn and toddler for full weekends on my own for my husband to go up north.