Husband is LIVID, threatening divorce

You’ve got to be trolling divorce the weirdo and go on with your life

I think your husband is gaslighting you, and using absolutely nothing ie.medical condition as an excuse …to hang out w the neighbour 😵‍💫 ( ?! wtf ! ) … you should follow your treatment care plan as prescribed and maybe ask the doctor for mental health supports! This sounds absolutely insane so sorry u have to deal with the bs. I don’t know if your husband is mentally stable.

On the other hand, oxy is addictive ( q4h is a bit intense, how many mg/ tab?) I guess I can understand the concern ? He should be at the doctor asking about alternatives if he has this much of a problem.

Does he have drug addicts in my family?

Taking into consideration his immediate family died of pain killers I can understand him being distraught over you taking it, regardless of if it’s prescribed by a doctor because sometimes that’s how addiction starts. However, him staying at the neighbor girls house over an argument is absurd and the fact that the neighbor girl allowed him to stay, shows there’s an inappropriate connection between them. I would certainly set boundaries between the two of you; as in you look for alternative options to manage your pain and he has no further contact with the neighbor.

This makes no sense at all. Your husband is maybe extremely ignorant … and for some reason thinks you taking one prescribed pill is equivalent to recreationally taking drugs and genuinely thinks you put your kids in danger and needs to read and educate himself. Or is just making some weird scenario to leave maybe for someone else

As someone who has had a father and half sibling die from an OD, I understand his apprehension to use them himself but he doesn’t get to dictate your care. Esp with kidney stones! His reaction is INSANE and not understandable at all.
He’s doing everything wrong and it’s making me wonder if he’s been wanting to spend time with the flirty neighbor and this was a “great excuse”. If he didn’t trust you or was genuinely worried for you, he wouldn’t have left you alone with your children. He would have taken them with him.

No you were not, you ended up back in hospital because you didn’t take the pills at first, to keep it sounds like he’s looking for a reason to leave, are you able to give him some research or even go back to the doctors so they can explain why you need to take them and what could happen if you don’t, maybe he could understand when it’s coming from the doctors (you shouldn’t have to do this but this is what I would do) he’s being absolutely ridiculous that you shouldn’t take pain killers cos his family did and died, I know grief can make ppl behave differently but this is pretty irrational, maybe you could also look into a couples therapist or councillor and maybe he needs some grief counselling also, I would continue taking the medication advised and prescribed by the doctor

This sounds super painful I’m sorry to hear you’re going through all of this!

I mean from my limited medical knowledge ( PSW-RPN ), oxy won’t obv change the size of the kidney stone it will just cut off the pain receptors in the central nervous system so ur brain can’t feel the pain.

If you are in pain for sure follow doctors orders, I would assume that ur going into surgery one way or another although by taking the oxy it would prolong the time u have before surgery to help manage the pain.

It sounds like your husband would benefit from grief counselling. Bereavement can make people do things that they wouldn’t normally do although I am not sure if that this should trigger him to be sleeping at your female neighbours house whatsoever. The stress of him acting like an ape is not good for your immune system.

You might try to get him to go to the doctor with you and he refuses. I would just leave him and figure out the best course of action for ur medical treatment.

He is very much using that as an excuse to get with your neighbor. My dad was a drug addict too basically my whole life but all it taught me was that I know the difference between getting a fix and a necessary prescription. This landed you in the hospital and he doesn't even care. This marriage might be over already.

If you’re not used to taking strong pain killers I fully understand him wanting you to wait until there is another adult present for your kids since you don’t know how much they’ll affect you but it sounds like that wasn’t even his point just not to take them at all which is unreasonable

Also if he was upset you took them while watching your kids and then immediately left you with the kids while on the pain killers to go to the neighbours house that doesn’t make sense