Hi I have a baby boy he is almost 16 weeks. I’m just curious really what other mums doing with their babies day to day? I was going to a few baby groups but they’re not on while school holidays now, I try to get out for walks, do lots of playing and reading books with my boy and will get out day to day shopping seeing family etc. just curious what others do and if there’s anything else I should be doing or could be doing! My boy seems to be developing well but I always seem to question myself if I’m doing enough with him! I am an overthinker and worrier tho I should add😆
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It sounds like you’re doing loads lovely!
I am not doing much with my LO as her reflux is so bad so she’s quiet unhappy, she just is upset most of the time, so just wants to be held during all wake windows and sleeps 🥺
Hopefully start some groups in the next few weeks but ploughing through for now!

Following, we do the exact same things as you've mentioned 😂 I feel like I need more ideas as its becoming samey and I feel like shes like oh god same again 😂

You sound like you are doing some lovely things with your boy already but can understand the weeks can feel long sometimes!
See if your local library do anything like rhyme time, or local family hubs can also do baby groups too. If you have another friend on mat leave, a weekly walk and coffee.

Also following because I feel like im constantly cycling between reading, activity gym and bouncer and she's just getting bored XD

Thank you for the replies ladies glad I’m not the only one lol 😂 feel better for hearing others opinions and I need to stop putting so much pressure on myself! Xx

I literally googled 10 minutes ago ‘how to entertain a 3 and a half month old!’. Sounds like we’re doing the same things, nice walks, different environments and lots of interaction with baby! They don’t need much at this age, I’m telling myself I need to make the most of this time before they need lots and lots of entertainment 😂 xx
So our stay at an Airbnb was ending in an hour. I did most of the tidying ( as per request or the host, who said they don’t have cleaners so they don’t charge cleaning fees so we need to keep the place as it was before we entered when we leave).
And then I did the most tidying, packing, and placing things in the car as he can’t lift heavy as he says he’s in pain. And the kids 3&5 started entering the rooms I cleaned and made up the bed ( to jump on the bed). I was getting stressed so I told him to get the kids out or he will do the beds again as I have already done them.
He said you don’t need to be rude…
Was I rude?
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I'm 35 weeks pregnant, soon to have a new born and I have a toddler.
My partner has just told me he wants to join a mastermind. But it will required him to go to Glasgow once a month. We live on the outskirts of London.
My mind its fucking unrealistic so you expect to leave me looking after 2 kids so you can go to a mastermind.... Find one closer.
I'm annoyed.
He is making out it's not unrealistic and "there are ways around it" like he can get his parents to help. Who have neverrrr helped in the past.
He said something like 1 day a month isn't unreasonable, is it.... To me that felt a lil manipulative. Which I told him.
We don't even know what postpartum will be like yet. What the babies temperament will be like. My toddler is going through terrible 2s.
Am I being unreasonable?
If he decide to book onto this master mind, I swear to god I will book a flight or spea weekend once a month and leave him with the kids? 2 can play that game.
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So my partner has had gambling addiction in the past so I have full control of his money.
He has a set amount every week until friday to last him for petrol money.
Today is obviously monday and hes asked for petrol money.
Ive said no.
Hes now having a huge tantrum about it and saying it's my fault.
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This weekend I was in the hospital with kidney stones measuring up to 5mm. The pain was honestly worst that labor, and I was given a prescription of oxycodone, 1 pill every 4 hours. I didn’t take them and ended up back in the ER and they explained I needed to be taking them even when I wasn’t in pain, because when the pain comes (when the stone starts moving) the pin is already too high for the prescription to work.
That made sense to me, so when I got home, I took a pill with a glass of water and a light lunch. I still had a dull ache, so I asked the girls if they wanted to lay in my bed and watch a movie together, which they did and we watched movies. My husband called to check in on me at some point and I told him I took the pills they gave me, and he FREAKED out. He immediately left and came home. Made the girls get out of our room and go to their own, and was screaming at me that he was so disappointed in me and couldn’t believe me. He saying “and you did that in front of our daughters???” I was shocked, and he just started packing his things and said if I wasn’t sick he’d be kicking me out and he’d be staying with the kids, but he was so disgusted with me he couldn’t look at me and couldn’t stay in the same house. Then he threw his packed bag into the doorway and left without it. He went to hang out with the single mom next door who is always flirting with him. Stayed the night there too, and wouldn’t take my calls. Called in the morning to talk to the girls and then came home to walk them to the bus stop with me.
He followed me into the house after they got on and told me he wanted a divorce. He said I could’ve died taking those pills (I took 1, as prescribed by the doctor) and that I need serious help. He told me that’s not fair to him or the kids when I know his mom died right in front of him and his brother OD’d on pain killers. (Yes I knew these things, but his mom died of natural causes and his brother was an addict. I’m not.) He said he can’t be with me anymore because he can’t even look at me without thinking about what I did. He had off work today so I asked if could call off and we spend the day together and figure it out, but he said no. He said he doesn’t even want to see me anymore. He then left again and walked to the neighbors house, and I went to work.
We’ve been fighting via text since I got here, and I’ve accused him of leaving me for the neighbor because I said this just feels like an insane over reaction and I did nothing wrong. He got more mad and said they’re “just friends” and when I pointed out everything not friendly she’s done he said I’m hilarious and making shit up.
I really don’t know what to think. Was I wrong for taking the medication with our kids home? Am I making too big of a deal over the neighbor ?
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Nothing pisses me off more than when I wash up & tidy the kitchen & my child's father (we're not together, just co parenting until I can move out) sees the empty & clean sink & leaves dirty plates in there again 😤😤😤
If he appreciated me cleaning up, surely he would just wash up after himself? 🙄 Can't fucking wait until the council processes my application so I can start bidding & hopefully it doesn't take too long to get a council place so I can move the fuck out😠🤬
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Im curious about people that did purees as i skipped it with my first and went straight to self weaning just after 6 months and will probably do that again, my 4 month old loves watching me eat i imagine she will be such a foodie ! Cant wait to see her discovering diffrent flavours i loved weaning my first 🥰
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