Normal toddler behaviour or autism ??

My child has a few behaviours that family have started to pick up on and imply he has autism. I see these as normal toddler traits, as when looking at autism he doesn’t have any of the social/developmental signs, it’s only a few behavioural.

He is very routine set, if you start doing something that routine will stick & he’ll have tantrums if you try to do something else.
He is fixated on wearing a hat, all the time even if if it’s barely sunny; and will pull it down over his face in any form of bright light, will often want to wear it to bed.
He gets very upset and distressed if for example, my dad pushes the pushchair when it’s always my mum that pushes it, or if my grandma holds the dogs lead, when normally my mum holds it.

Outside of these things, he has phenomenal speech, great eye contact, amazing at making friends despite being only 22 months, and has a great interest in food, music & a variety of styles of play.

I think it’s just total toddler behaviour, but I can also see he’s quite particular about certain things others may not be???

in our community

Unsafe use of carriers, do you tell them?

I see so many people with small babies using carriers completely wrong but I never know if I should say anything. And if I do, I don’t want to come across like I’m chastising them, I just want their baby to be safe. Would you say something?

13 Month Review

So my daughter goes to nursery and recently they have reported back about her communication saying it not where they’d expect. Has anyone else had this?

I’d say she isn’t too bad with her communication, she says a few meaningful words, she understands what you say and follows it. She understands gestures like opening and shutting when you say open etc. she points to things she wants.

I constantly talk to her saying the names of objects etc, show her book and name things in them. I sign a lot of gestures that I hope she’ll start to use.

No doubt the nursery are doing what we pay them for by doing observations, and I definitely want my child to progress. But I just feel it’s a bit harsh as I’m doing everything already that they recommend to build communication.

I just don’t know what else to do.

Can anyone help?

Cleaning

How are we cleaning our babies bits?! I try to clean my little girl the best I can but there still looks to be white discharge in between the folds. I dont want her to get sore but also dont really know how to get in there without that hurting too?!

Can you lift the a newborn out of the Moses basket?

This might sound stupid, but everyone says you can't do any lifting so I'm really confused about how I'm supposed to get the baby out of the Moses basket at night.
Do you keep the baby on your side or your partner side and have them help?

Finding joy postpartum - really struggling

I’m less than 2 weeks PP and I’m really struggling to find the joy in motherhood.

I wanted this baby so much, he’s IVF and such a conscious decision but I’m so unhappy.

I’m in touch with my midwives, the MH team, tried Samaritans and PANDAS but I’m only feeling worse.

I think it’s particularly hard because he has a tongue tie that means he cluster feeds basically all day and I can’t do a thing. He’ll scream anywhere but my breast.

I was wondering if anyone struggled post partum, and what they actively did to find joy and connection with their baby? I’m truly starting to wonder if I hate it and if I genuinely love him. I’m so clouded with sadness.

Nappy changes

Just wondering if anybody else also was disgusted by the thought of changing a nappy! I hate the smell and gag at the sight of it when my sister changes my nephew 😭 Any tips for how I can get over this with my own?