Husband working late

At the end of the day, you need to decide if this is what you and husband want. Because if you want to be a sahm, then for a lot of women it means our partner sacrificing his time and opportunities to make memories so you can dedicate your time to be present all the time.

For our family, we agreed that I would be a sahm and homeschool, so I don't get breaks. But even if I choose not to, my husband would still be working the same job, with the same long hours and days, so why not just take advantage that it can provide for me to be a sahm.

I constantly bombarded his phone with messages of how our children are doing, abs he says that is what motivates him to stay. But he is working towards changing that by paying off our debt, house and cars should be paid off within av year or two at most, so he can move to a higher position but it would be salary, which means lower pay due to not having overtime. But we would be past with that as he could potentially be home more often

Yes it can be frustrating. My partner hasn’t adapted to the not sleeping as much reality of an infant and so he sleeps in quite late and ends up starting late and then finishing late meanwhile I’m up first thing with no breaks or lie ins. He does watch the baby the first few hours in the cot in the nursery but yeah struggles to go to bed and sleep ends up with insomnia if he goes to bed earlier than like 3:00. So yeah baby in bed at 9:30ish I’m in bed a half hour later. He is struggling to adapt to work life differences apologises for needing so much sleep and not getting up early enough but it’s just frustrating. It was a bit irksome before bc we never got out of the house to do anything before evening but now with the baby I’m on shift 7 days a week like 24 hours a day except for the hour to 3 hours baby is in the cot and the 15-20 min breaks husband has the baby mainly so I can cook 😩🙃 we wanted a balanced relationship but childcare is crazy ££ so yay

My partner barely works. It worries me. I rather they work long hours

It’s hard, my husband travels 4 days a week for work. So I’m alone all day and all night plus I’m 3 months pp with a 2 1/2 year old. It’s rough but we look forward to his call at the end of his workday and appreciate the stability it brings. Also depending on where work takes him we can make a vacation out of it.🙂‍↔️