Broken

I’m sorry you were told this by someone you love. Was this said during an argument? Or out of anger. If so, I would just call it a night. Tomorrow, when emotions are back to normal, bring it up. “Hey last night you said something that really hurt my feelings” try to see if he remembers. Sometimes when our emotions are running high, we say and do things we don’t mean.
Sometimes you don’t even remember saying it.
If he doesn’t remember, tell him. And then ask what was the purpose of that statement.
If he does remember, same thing, What was the purpose of that statement ? What was he hoping to accomplish with it? Hurt your feelings ?? Let out his emotion? Etc… and then take it from there. I hope this helps. I’m a message away if you need anything

It’s also impossible to talk to him because he doesn’t want to listen to my side , he says his peace then tell me he donate Anna talk about it anymore he’s not interested in what I have to say , if I try and talk I get accused of shouting and raising my voice which becomes the main issue of the problem rather than the actual issue.
He’s always quick to blame me for everything , I’m always the bad guy

Aww I’m so sorry he’s acting like you made the kids alone. If he didn’t want kids he should’ve prevented it. Don’t let his mean words get to you and know you deserve better than someone who blames everything on you.

if you’re not together then just cut contact with him around anything that isn’t the children. you don’t deserve to be spoken to like that and you definitely don’t need to put up with it! if he is persistent and doesn’t civilly coparent without abusive messages then go through a third party, either a family member or there are apps etc where everything is tracked and he can be held accountable for any abuse or harassment. i know you said that you’re living under his roof but you need to move and get out of that situation ! it is so hard and i understand i had to leave an abusive situation in november - ended up crashing at my mums for a month and then moving into my own place now renting. if you do not have the funds for that then speak to your council as they have support in place for people facing homelessness and people leaving abusive situations. i’m so sorry you’re going through this but you can get out of it and it will get so much better! i’m living my
best life now! xxx

Same as mine.. but in reality that’s the way they feel about them selves ! Don’t feel sad you are worth more than you think ❤️