Postpartum/return to work

Not sure if anyone has any advice or is also currently going through this. Struggling first time mom over here. My baby is almost 4 months old, I returned to work when he was 9 weeks old. I work at a daycare so I'm able to bring him with me, he's in the classroom directly next to me with a half wall separating us. I'm currently struggling with adjusting being away from him all day while also dealing with all the postpartum things, feeling like a bad mom for leaving him and not spending all day with him, constantly wanting to cry. Feeling like I'm doing something wrong at my job just for peaking over the wall to check on him. Wanting to work from home so I can be with him but fighting myself wondering if I should do that, feeling guilty if I do because I'd be leaving my current job.

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No you are doing an amazing job keep going stay there until you find something else that works for you and baby but right now that's the best place for both of you you can keep an eye on baby keep peeking over that wall girl you the mama dont ever feel guilty for checking on your baby 🩷

I know the exact feeling!! I was traveling an hour to and from work. Getting home by 6-615 every night was hard. Then I had to cook as well. I missed my LO so much, and worry about him. Even though he was in good hands. My co worker told me that help some. Was you might not be there for his first things, but seeing them for the first time will be your first.
I was able to get a hybrid job 5 months later and it is hard. My LO is 6 months old and is moving around more wake windows. I’m in the office Monday and Friday 7-4 get home about 5. Wednesday is my only day I have him by myself and it’s a little stressful. I am blessed my mom comes on Thursday for me.

Also I would seek some therapy to help with your PPD

I would listen to your instincts girl.

Im a FTM here I’m suppose to return to work sept 28th. I was extended due to my PPD. I’m swing behavioral health today to possibly extend my short term disability until January until I can find the right candidate to take care of my daughter. Although i know bills don’t stop but my PPD is terrible. I can just imagine what you’re going through!

Just remember that you are still a person. You are doing your best and if your best is going to work to provide for your family then so be it. It took me a couple cries to finally understand that me returning to work is better for the long run and our future. You can always check in on your baby while pumping so you can reassure yourself but you are doing a good job as is❤️

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Returning to work after Mat leave…

Had my first day back to work as a teacher yesterday. My baby is just over 9 months. My partner and family all work shifts that change daily or weekly so my little one is in nursery 4 days a week and I get one day off with her.

I know it’s only been one day but I’m feeling incredibly overwhelmed. I missed my baby and felt like an awful mum for not being with her. Equally I don’t know how I will be a very good teacher anymore because all I care about is going home to my baby.

I guess I just want know others experiences so I know I won’t feel this rubbish about it forever 😢

Postpartum/return to work

Would/have you left your baby in hospital.

Hi, I’m in a position where my 10 week old has to stay in hospital for a few months - at least. I have my other child at home, whilst grandparents are amazing at being available… I’m missing them. I miss not being with them. Baby father works a lot and is unable to swap places with me even if he would like too. We need the money so unless I leave baby nothing will change.
Have you ever left a young baby in hospital whilst you stayed with their sibling.
Did you go back daily.
My other child staying with me is out of the picture.

Looking for some opinions/advice because I genuinely don’t know what the best thing to do is.

Me and my baby’s dad were together for 5 years. We broke up in April while I was pregnant, and within the same month he had a new girlfriend.

Since we broke up, he’s barely contacted me or checked in to see how me or the baby are doing. We’ve gone months without speaking and I’ve basically been going through the pregnancy, appointments and preparing for our little boy on my own.

He’s said he wants to be involved once the baby is born, but he’s also told me he wants a paternity test when he’s here. I know people can ask for that reassurance, but after being together for five years and knowing there’s no question in my mind about who the father is, it has obviously hurt me.

I’m also finding it difficult that he moved on and got into another relationship so quickly after our five-year relationship ended, especially while I’m pregnant. I understand that we’re no longer together and he’s entitled to move on, but it’s a lot to process alongside everything else.

I don’t want my feelings towards him or his new relationship to influence decisions about our son. At the same time, I feel like being a parent starts before the baby is born, and I’m struggling with the idea of him having very little involvement throughout the pregnancy but then expecting everything to change once the baby arrives.

I’m also unsure how to approach his new girlfriend being around my baby.i have never met her before and have no idea who she is.

Has anyone been in a similar situation? What would you do? Would you let him take the lead and see whether he actually makes consistent effort once the baby is born? How would you deal with the paternity test and his new girlfriend?

I’m not looking to keep my son away from his dad. I just want to protect my peace, set sensible boundaries and make decisions that are genuinely best for my baby rather than making them because I’m hurt.

Do you think having sex every 2 days (every other night) in my fertile window will be enough to get pregnant?

We've not managed every day due to kids and me falling asleep on the sofa!

I regret becoming a SAHM and stepmom

I regret giving up my autonomy.
I regret becoming dependent.
I regret getting involved with his drama and his shitty parenting with my stepkid.
I regret having to wait on him to do anything.

Recently he sold his business and hasn’t been working and has been home miserable. Now we’re having money issues and I’m looking for work again. I sit on the laptop hopeful to find sometime part time or full time remote and he sits there telling me to look for a job for him.

I regret marrying this man child. Who lied about who he was, what he had and what he was capable of. He totaled my car and purchased a new one in his name. Now I’m stuck in the house all day and he’s telling me to take public transportation, which I wasn’t doing and hasn’t done for 10+ years prior to meeting him.

Then he says take the car and make plans whenever but when I decide something his plans always take precedence.

Today I wanted to take my baby to the zoo since it’s free after 2pm on Wednesday. I made us breakfast, while he was at the gym with the intention to get ready after breakfast to go enjoy my afternoon. He tells me oh I have to travel 1.5 hours to pickup my brother, come with me. I said no obv because why should I subject my baby to sit in the car for 1.5 hours upstate, another 1.5 hours to drop him off to the city and another hour to come back home?!

I am miserable , I hate myself for these choices I’ve made, I hate my life.

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Returning to work after Mat leave…

Postpartum/return to work

Would/have you left your baby in hospital.

Looking for some opinions/advice because I genuinely don’t know what the best thing to do is.

Do you think having sex every 2 days (every other night) in my fertile window will be enough to get pregnant?

I regret becoming a SAHM and stepmom