Post partum sex

Everyone’s different doll. If your ready go for it if not that’s ok too

we did try at six weeks but it felt too soon, properly i would say around 2 months for me but it was still more painful than normal and because i’m breastfeeding the libido is very low so a lot of foreplay is appreciated lol

I had a 3rd degree tear. I think we did the first time at 10 weeks, and then it was quite painful so gave it another few months until we started having sex more often

With my first (2nd degree tear and episiotomy) it was 4 months. With my second it was 3 weeks

With my first I had a second degree tear and an episiotomy, we first tried at about 9 weeks pp but it was still a bit sore so waited a couple of weeks before trying again. It was probably around 6 months before it felt "normal".

After my second I only had a really tiny tear and a couple of stitches, lasted 5 weeks and 6 days 😅 all was good 😅 I healed a lot better and much quicker the second time thankfully!

My first born I had a different man in my life and he forced me to have sex ( guilt tripped me into thinking if I didn’t have sex with him he was gonna cheat) within 2 weeks I did not tear but i still had scratches and things like that and it really hurt and I told him and then we waited at the 6 week mark and from that point on until we broke up my vagina was sore when having sex. my second born I’m currently with the man of my dreams and I didn’t tear either, I was good to go around 8 weeks pp. currently pregnant again so yeah! Every body is different and this is a fragile time so take the time if you need too.

It took me until 2 and a half months postpartum mostly because I was nervous and I tore so I wanted to make sure I was fully healed and it’s rough trying to do that with a clingy newborn lol

I had a third degree tear and it took me almost a year to have sex again 🫣 I was too scared bc of the tear but thankfully it felt normal and didn’t hurt at all. Wait until you feel ready!

I had a 2nd degree tear and waited 4 weeks

With both of mine I was really lucky and had uncomplicated vaginal delivery with no tearing. I wanted to try sex again quite quickly after my first (not like the next day 😂 but at maybe 4/5 weeks), because I really missed the intimacy and wanted to feel like my body was my own again. It was physically fine but literally all I was thinking about was my baby being in the other room and whether he was breathing. So it’s complicated even if physically you’re good to go… take the time you need for it to feel right for you.

I weirdly felt ready after 2 weeks and it was the best sex I’ve ever had tbh apart from being a bit painful but I regretted doing it so soon as I was stitched down there and was panicking about my stitches for weeks after!!! All was fine in the end luckily but yeah. Wouldn’t rush it again!