I want to stop co-sleeping 😭

Basically dealing with the exact same thing 😭😭 yall drop all the tips I need help too

my son was like this. he was a unicorn baby and slept through the night from birth until i stopped swaddling him at 6m. from 7-9/10m he was up every hour, every night. some nights i didnt even bother putting him in his bed, i just kept him with me and i even kept my shirt off so i didnt have to wake up to him feeding 😅 it felt like forever but all of a sudden he just started sleeping again. especially when he got his own room, he was in a crib right across from me for 12m and then we made space for him to have his own room. hes 16m now and in a toddler bed and hes been back to sleeping through the night! hes also getting good at putting himself to sleep but im not rushing it. "it cant last forever" really got me through it.

So I'm going through the exact same thing right now with my 3 week old, the suggestions that I have been given is to build a night time routine bath bottle bed. Another suggestion that I had was put a shirt in there with your smell on it so the "dirty" shirt. So far what's worked for me is genuinely stepping out for a little bit and letting him tire himself out. If you're to the point where you're crying and you're getting frustrated and you're extremely tired sometimes it's best to just step away and let them cry it out.

Try the cot with holes between sticks right next to your bed, if he cries put your hand through and tap next to him like a heartbeat, or let him hold your finger, I did so with all my 3, and all 3 wanted to co-sleep with me or at least their dad, we had all 3 in different rooms, now they all sleep with just a bit of my presence in one room and it works perfectly 👌 Is it dark enough in a room, is it plain enough not to overstimulate?

My baby was the same, around the same age when he was doing similar things. We only have a pack and play—no nice crib 🥺—but!!! The pack n play has a zipper😏 For a week or two, I would unzip it, shimmy myself in there enough so I could nurse him to sleep, and then shimmy myself out and zip it back up. IT WORKED!! The main goal was for him to have a positive, calming experience in the pack n play—that’s the first step away from co-sleeping and toward independent sleep. Baby steps!! After that, I would nurse to sleep, and then lay him down in the pack n play. Before I did the crazy shimmy thing, he would IMMEDIATELY wake up and PANIC. After the shimmy thing, he wouldn’t! He would wake up, but I’d pat him and sing until he fell back asleep. This would take awhile, anywhere from 10-30 minutes, BUT I felt it was worth it **because** once he entered a deep sleep, he would sleep for at least 5ish hours on his own. When we had been cosleeping, he’d sleep 6-7ish hours and then wake for a feed…

That sounds so hard!

I’m adding the link to the sleep book my husband and I used that helped a TON for my two littles—we followed the sleep recommendations from the beginning but it basically goes over sleep hygiene (how to create the best environment for sleep), bedtime routines, and how to handle it when baby cries and doesn’t want to be alone!

Break it down into the tiniest steps possible—pediatrician said “no swaddling after 4 months” but when we unswaddled our son we did one arm out for a week with a mitten on, then two arms out but body swaddled for a week with mittens on, then sleep sack under swaddle for a week, then just sleep sack. That’s how slow we had to go!

If there are any of the sleep hygiene techniques in here that you aren’t using yet, start by adding them one by one during cosleeping OR naptime and then make the big change if you can! That way your physical presence being gone is the only “change” he has to deal with!

You’ve got this!

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