Am I ungrateful?

I’m a mother of 11 month old twins. I didn’t have the best relationship with my children’s father so I moved back home to be closer to family after they begged me to come back. They told me they would help me when I got here. My sister and her husband helped me pack and move everything and I left to go back home. I’ve experienced some help here with getting to appointments but no one will babysit the twins or allow me to get a break here and there. They see me overwhelmed and they compare me to other mothers with more kids than me.

The twins dad recently came to visit and we were able to talk about a lot; including going couples therapy. We still love each other deeply. Also I know how much he missed the twins and seeing him takeover and allowing me to rest really got me to thinking. I’m heavily considering going back to work things out. My family has been talking about me behind my back and word got back to me that if I go back to him, they won’t help me anymore. I get that, but the thing is they promised me support and I uprooted my whole life with two babies to come here just to be treated weird. I’m grateful for the help I did receive but this isn’t what was promised.

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MIL has only seen her twice , once when she was born and the second when we drove through for a hour, we live over an hour away from them so hence the not constantly seeing eachother and I’m not going to constantly pack up and travel over there all the time.

I’m really really nervous as the time is approaching, we had booked this pre pregnancy and i genuinely thought I’d be okay but I’m really starting to panic. I don’t want to say anything to them incase they take it the wrong way like they think I don’t trust th or that they aren’t capable as she has had two boys. I feel so nervous im considering not going and just staying at home whilst my partner takes a friend and goes, but another part of me believes I should go as my life shouldn’t just stop because I’ve had a child and I deserve to have fun too but I also just don’t know anymore, I love my girl but I also want a break but I also don’t want her to go somewhere else. My mum died years ago and my dad’s too old to do it himself. We have no friends nearby who would help out either so this is really our only option.

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Food

Hey,
My baby is 7 months, she doesn’t like pureès, and I’m really unsure what to offer her ?
She is ready for food, as I spoke to my doctors, my health visitor, and she’s showing all signs, she will eat snacky things like wafers, and puffs, we’ve given weetabix a go which she was happy with, but I’m just unsure what to offer to a bit of a picky eater🙈
Any tips or advice will be appreciated😊xx