Bed time hell
My baby goes down in the next to me, sometimes asleep, sometimes drowsy but can spend up to an hour waking up crying. I don’t let her cry it out but do the pick up put down method but my god it’s tough…..
Tell me - how can it become easier????
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It's the 4 month sleep regression. It just gets better with time. Don't worry about sleep training. It's a developmental leap that doesn't need training out of. It will just get better soon.
The first sleep regression is by far the hardest. Hang in there xxx
I have no advice but we are in the exact same boat with waking up really blind crying for the first few hours of his sleep since the sleep regression began. He is inconsolable for his dad and only settles with boob (but isn’t hungry). After that he wakes frequently but doesn’t cry when waking. It is tough to see him so upset and we can’t figure out any obvious reason.
Walking with the baby around the room or going outside in the pram helps. Also when you put her down lights off and put your hand gently on their chest for some time maybe afew minutes so they can feel you before moving away.
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Bed time hell
My baby goes down in the next to me, sometimes asleep, sometimes drowsy but can spend up to an hour waking up crying. I don’t let her cry it out but do the pick up put down method but my god it’s tough…..
Tell me - how can it become easier????
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