Feeling sad and lost
My ex partner left me at 38 weeks, just before baby was born at 38+4, we’ve been living a lie since playing happy families in front of his family and it’s killing me, the rug was pulled from under me and blindsighted as I never envisioned us ever splitting up and I’m absolutely heartbroken, had babies first family visit out today and it’s broke me mentally, I’ve been sobbing begging her dad to love me, asking if we can still try again cause he told me it was a “break not a breakup” I feel in limbo, he won’t communicate. I don’t want my poor baby to be alone without her dad, her dad and me were the endgame and I cannot ever imagine having another person in her life to replace him. And for me I’ve lost my partner and he’s the only one I want to turn to, I feel so broken having no affection whatsoever or even anyone to talk to, I don’t really have any friends or anything and I genuinely just need a hug idk how else to cope, does anyone have any ideas of how I can sort my mental out, I’m just so sad and trying to stay strong while raising a baby who isn’t even a week old, I’m exhausted and just feel like the emotions sooner or later are gonna play catch up and catch me off guard when I least expect it. I don’t wanna burnout ):
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Girl, I’m so sorry. 😭❤️ I honestly don’t even know what to say other than please be gentle with yourself. You’re dealing with so much at once and of course you’re hurting. You thought this was your person, your family, your future, and then all of a sudden everything changed. That kind of heartbreak is brutal.
Please don’t feel like you have to figure everything out right now. You don’t have to know if you guys will work things out or what the future is going to look like. Just take it day by day. Eat something, drink some water, shower when you can, cry when you need to, and let people help you if you have anyone you can lean on.
And I know you said you just need a hug… so consider this a HUGE virtual one. 🫂❤️ You are not weak for feeling this way. You’re human, and you’re hurting.
Also, please don’t isolate yourself. Even if it’s just finding one person you can text and say “I’m having a really bad day, can you talk to me?” You deserve to have someone in your corner too. ❤️
I am so beyond sorry your going through this I don’t have much advise just hurt in my heart for you as I know heart break and I couldn’t imagine it while being post partum .
Talk to whoever you can about how you feel anyone who has an ear let it out girl , your baby will always have you and what an absolute role model to be dealing with this but still going on and doing your bet for her she’s very lucky to have you 🤍
I’m just over Paisley way so if you ever want to meet up id love to !
You’ve so got this girl even if it doesn’t feel like it you 100% do 🤍🤍
Lovely I am so sorry this has happened to you! Your emotions are not only valid, but they are being x by 100 with all the hormones! I kicked my baby daddy out 10 days PP so I knew baby was safe. Sometimes I do still miss the idea of it all and it will take time for it to go, but it doesn’t mean it’s gone forever or that I’ll never have it again. It just means it’s not happening right now but dammit when I tell you, when you see that baby you will love like you never have before, it’s beautiful! Just try to focus on you and baby, you shouldn’t ever have to beg someone, you deserve more than that!x
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